tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post115564812926117597..comments2023-11-03T15:36:07.669+04:00Comments on Welcome To My Rebellious Kingdom: Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1156598738659655302006-08-26T17:25:00.000+04:002006-08-26T17:25:00.000+04:00Gautam,Oh Gosh good that someone got my pointthx 4...Gautam,<BR/><BR/>Oh Gosh <BR/><BR/>good that someone got my point<BR/><BR/>thx 4 coming by!!!Arab Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02079717554425500917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1156574126410730492006-08-26T10:35:00.001+04:002006-08-26T10:35:00.001+04:00Actually dating does not mean making love at all, ...Actually dating does not mean making love at all, they are two seperate things. Dating is purely a part of the western culture. But people who are new to it pick up a few things about it and miss out on the others. Like for instance for many of the Asians / Middle Eastern and other non-western nationalities dating means seeing a partner for a while untill you end up in bed with him/her and thats the end of it. Your thoughts on dating were pretty good.<BR/><BR/>Cheers!<BR/><BR/>GautamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1156574115629329002006-08-26T10:35:00.000+04:002006-08-26T10:35:00.000+04:00Actually dating does not mean making love at all, ...Actually dating does not mean making love at all, they are two seperate things. Dating is purely a part of the western culture. But people who are new to it pick up a few things about it and miss out on the others. Like for instance for many of the Asians / Middle Eastern and other non-western nationalities dating means seeing a partner for a while untill you end up in bed with him/her and thats the end of it. Your thoughts on dating were pretty good.<BR/><BR/>Cheers!<BR/><BR/>GautamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1156330510563357352006-08-23T14:55:00.000+04:002006-08-23T14:55:00.000+04:00Why don’t u go through the stuff I wrote to c if I...Why don’t u go through the stuff I wrote to c if I referred to the issue from the religion’s point of view? Did I say Sheikh X has said this an d Sheik Y has said that !!!Arab Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02079717554425500917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1156253613218994712006-08-22T17:33:00.000+04:002006-08-22T17:33:00.000+04:00O.o Kisses are OK?Can you tell me which mufti says...O.o Kisses are OK?<BR/><BR/>Can you tell me which mufti says that? I might feel like buy a couple of fatwas from him someday.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155951606978928362006-08-19T05:40:00.000+04:002006-08-19T05:40:00.000+04:00Wallah ya ArabLady I dont know what to say!I dont ...Wallah ya ArabLady I dont know what to say!<BR/>I dont like arranged marriages but at the same time I am not with dating. I believe inno el2ashia btijy la7alha w ana ba7eb inha tijy la7alha hek "3ala eltasaheel" :-)<BR/><BR/>And regarding this "Believe me 95% of the Arab guys don’ think of getting married to girls they dated & 100% of the Arab guys don’t ever marry girls they had sex with…." yes you are very right!<BR/><BR/>I think if dating is wrong then it should be wrong for both girls and guys and if its ok then its ok for both, even our religion ma farra2 bainhom fi had elmawdo3!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155947027134307762006-08-19T04:23:00.000+04:002006-08-19T04:23:00.000+04:00thank you for the kind comment on my blog :)Are yo...thank you for the kind comment on my blog :)<BR/><BR/>Are you an emaratee woman, or do you just live/work in UAE?Al-Hajejihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03764430551588609147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155802852947258482006-08-17T12:20:00.000+04:002006-08-17T12:20:00.000+04:00The whole ban on sex-before-marriage issue in Isla...The whole ban on sex-before-marriage issue in Islam and in Christianity is mired in hypocrisy and double-standards. The vast majority of Arab man I have met, and I've taught a lot in my 15 years in the Middle East, have had sex before marriage, or have tried to find someone to have sex with before they were married (as a lot of men do, and women too). Of course they want to marry virgins ..but that's got nothing to do with religion in most cases...it's to do with cultural expectations and the prescribed role of women in society. It was exactly the same in my own country not that long ago. Thankfully, things have changed and some of the hypocrisy attached to this whole area has been exposed and dealt with.<BR/><BR/>Men and women want to have sex ...if someone wants to abstain from sexual activity until after marriage for whatever reason, then fine. That's their choice to make. But it should be their choice. Yes, Islam and Christianity, and possibly Judaism too (I don't know) prohibit sex-before-marriage ...but our religions prescribe and/or prohibit a lot of things which many people accept or reject on an a la carte basis depending on where they are and who they're with. For example, how many Muslims give Zakat, in the correct amount each year? How many Catholics fast correctly during Lent? The list could go on and on...<BR/><BR/>Live your own life, and let others live theirs. We'll all be much happier that way.Misehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14500730996132041193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155731545336581202006-08-16T16:32:00.000+04:002006-08-16T16:32:00.000+04:00I loved that little saying from Prophet Muhammad (...I loved that little saying from Prophet Muhammad (PBUH):<BR/><BR/>“Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan is the third among them” (Reported by At-Tirmidhi)<BR/><BR/>Got me thinking dude!clayfuturehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06085804517874130639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155717247207685972006-08-16T12:34:00.000+04:002006-08-16T12:34:00.000+04:00Great and I am not against dating though these iss...Great and I am not against dating though these issues need to be discussed throughly:<BR/><BR/>First and foremost, dating is brought about by wanting to associate with an opposite partner with a certain intention:I am not here to discuss what I call "bad and sinful habits" but the good side of it..<BR/><BR/>For a happy and satisfying relationship, I would urge anyone ready to marry or is proposing to marry to date and know "the person"..How do u marry someone you don't know?<BR/><BR/>I have dated several ladies and I still have a lot of contentions with some of them...Some are good, some horrible and some fair..<BR/><BR/>That is the only way to get things going..and to have a good partner..<BR/><BR/>You would wish to date and marry someone you are a freind with..that is where dating comes in..The Rendezvoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07810728505009218918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155707384174377602006-08-16T09:49:00.000+04:002006-08-16T09:49:00.000+04:00WOW - what a great and emotional subject to place ...WOW - what a great and emotional subject to place on a blog !!!<BR/><BR/>I have to say that I dont agree with arranged marriages, often they end up in unhappiness and infedelity.<BR/><BR/>My now husband who is a UAE national and muslim was also my boyfriend for 8 years before we married WHY ? because his family were so insitant upon an arranged marriage in the family, they came so many times to him with ladies for marriage and at each time he refused. <BR/><BR/>I wish now that we had not slept together before the marriage as I know that this is against islam but at that time I was not muslim, for a westerner this is normal practice.<BR/><BR/>His family now agree that he is more happy and settled than he has ever been and they realise that to some extent they made a mistake, but it does not stop them continuing the tradition of arranged marriages and marrying in the family.<BR/><BR/>The number of his friends who are TRAPPED in arrange marriages who are "playing" around is huge, I am so glad that we are not in this situation and that he does not feel that he needs to play around in order to find some sort of happiness.<BR/><BR/>There are so many reasons why arranged marriages are not the way to go I could write all day but I am sure you would become bored. <BR/><BR/>Try to date with a chaperone to adhere to the Islamic teachings therefore you remain chaste for that right person that WILL come along.babe_uaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14811195190625651427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155704407944831602006-08-16T09:00:00.000+04:002006-08-16T09:00:00.000+04:00Arablady,what a taboo subject to write about on yo...Arablady,<BR/>what a taboo subject to write about on your blog!!! I think I should say CONGRATULATIONS for tackling such subject. <BR/>the debate will take forever! you will have many supporters and triple the number of people who will oppose you!! Be ready to dive into this struggle..many people will be against your thoughts personally or virtually. good luck to you and be assured that i will be watching the comment on this subject for a long time! <BR/>Are you planning on replying to the comments?? I guess you should, it will open up more space for logical debate, brighter thoughts, ideal ideas and maybe have an openness about such important matter in the lives of many young men and women.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17554754077324218426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155674684782520762006-08-16T00:44:00.000+04:002006-08-16T00:44:00.000+04:00hey,for me,arranged marraige is beyond comprehensi...hey,<BR/>for me,arranged marraige is beyond comprehension,its like...an african ritual i cant relate to,but dating...?<BR/><BR/>if i bump into "the one" as u say,n that means bumping into him each n every day for some time(hopefully that'll be enough to know him),then,i'll "think" about getting <BR/>married,otherwise,there's no need to run a search for him,its not like one HAS to get married,fine,is a nice feeling,and those who dont get married miss a lot...but there's no reason at all to marry a random person just for the heck of it..<BR/>it goes this way :<BR/>u know the person(like/love him at some point),realize u can both add up something(mistahel,ya reit) to each others' lives,SO u think of marraige..<BR/>NOT:<BR/>decide to get married,or,u'll eventually do,and then try to get as close as u can to what u have in mind.<BR/><BR/>plus,dating is an act,no matter how spontaneous we are...<BR/><BR/>i hate compromise,especially in something so..fatal.Dozzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14425796147328245473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155669388633275212006-08-15T23:16:00.000+04:002006-08-15T23:16:00.000+04:00you cannot compare the olden days with the current...you cannot compare the olden days with the current period of time. we are in a world now, where shall a girl choose she wants to marry someone the traditional way by an arranged marriage, then the men are no longer like that.<BR/><BR/>we are in a world where divorce has exceeded one quarter of the marriages. so people dont want to get into that. i mean if the reason for divorce is something very very obvious where had she known, she would not have accepted him in the first place. why not save both families the trouble and discover those things in a pre-marital relationship!!!<BR/><BR/>the issue with dating is mainly the 5ulwa issue. these days 5ulwa occurs whether u are dating someone or not. since purely the issue of travelling anywhere outside the house withOUT a mu7ram means u might be in an elevator, a meeting, an office, a waiting room, etc in close proximity to a strange man and with no one else present.!!!!! all this would never have happened before since women were not leaving the house even.<BR/><BR/>anyways this is a gate u do not want to open. <BR/><BR/>I say go sister go. im WITH dating all the way. I wanna know my man before i make the mistake of getting married.3anoodahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15954111967448120266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14586074.post-1155651621110412692006-08-15T18:20:00.000+04:002006-08-15T18:20:00.000+04:00very true and good analysis! ;)very true and good analysis! ;)عادلhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11822446621954139654noreply@blogger.com