أسماء أمهاتنا شرف لنا

01 April, 2007

Two days ago I argued with my sister about the theory of holding the mothers’ name. She desperately tried to convince me its 7aram, kufr, blab blah… So to 7ayati my sister& to every one else,
I post this old article written by Dr. Nawal Al Saadawi! Isn’t amazing! By the way, unfortunately Nawal’s latest theater play is not available at the largest bookstore in Dubai :S Help! :(

Enjoy the article!

أسماء أمهاتنا شرف لنا
بقلم د. نوال السعداوى
القاهرة 8 ابريل 2006
لماذا أثارت رغبة الكاتبة والشاعرة د. منى حلمى فى أن تحمل اسم امها مع اسم أبيها كل هذا الغضب ؟
والغريب أن غضب النساء كان أكبر من غضب الرجال
أو ربما ليس غريبا
نحن نعرف أن المسجون لسنين طويلة يخا ف الخروج من باب السجن حين يفتح .
لهذا السبب تخا ف أغلب النساء الحرية , تعودن الخضوع لسلطة الرجا ل خوفا من الطلاق أو النشوز أو فقدان ظل الأما ن فى كنف الرجل ( ظل رجل ولا ظل حيطة )
وأغلب الامهات يعاملن بناتهن بقسوة أكثر من الآباء
وهذا أمر ناتج عن القهر الطويل والعبودية الضاربة فى التاريخ منذ آلاف السنين .
سمعت آراء بعض الأساتذة العلماء فى صحيح الدين ومنهم الأستاذ جمال البنا الذى أكد على شاشة التلفزيون أن أسم الأم شرف فى الاسلام ومن المفروض أن يحمل الأطفال اسم الأم والأب معا لأنهما يشتركان معا فى انتاج الطفل بل ان دور الأم أكبر
وهناك من فقهاء الاسلام من نسب الى أمه , أبن تميمة مثلا


وفى أيامنا هذه يحمل رؤساء حكومات أسماء أمهاتهم مثل :
زاباتيرو رئيس وزراء أسبانيا
هنية رئيس وزراء فلسطين
السنيورة رئيس وزراء لبنان
وهناك رجا ل عظماء فى التاريخ نسبوا لامهاتهم منهم شكسبير ونيوتن وأينشتاين وبيكاسو وباخ
وفى التاريخ القديم حمل النبى عيسى ( المسيح ) اسم أمه مريم وكان يفخر بها وهى المرأة الوحيدة التى ذكرها القرآن باسمها مريم احتراما لشخصيتها , فالأسم جزء من شخصية الانسان , بدون اسم لا يوجد الشخص ,
تجريد الانسان من اسمه هو اهانة كبيرة , لذلك حين تدخل السجن تفقد اسمك وتتحول الى رقم .
بعض القيادات النسائية ( حاملات النظريات الاشتراكية ) مطوا شفاهم وشمخوا بأنوفهم وقالوا ما أهمية اسم الأم هناك قضايا أكثر أهمية مثل الفقر والأمية
و منهن من هى فى المجلس القومى للمرأة حاضرة على الدوام مع السيدة الأولى فى مؤتمرات مكافحة الفقر .
أما القيادات المتأسلمات فقد رددن آية " وادعوهم لآبائهم " دون فهم لمعناها وأسباب نزولها ودون ذكر لبقية الآية على غرار " ولا تقربوا الصلاة "
أما الزعيمة التى كانت شيوعية ثم أصبحت رأسمالية نيوليبرالية فقد قالت هذه فكرة مستوردة من الغرب وتدعو الى الاباحية .
وقا ل رجل يحتل وظيفة دينية أن من يحمل اسم أمه هو ابن زنا لأن اسم الأب هو الذى يعطى الشرف للأطفال
واندهشنا كيف يعاقب الطفل البرىء ويطلق عليه ابن زنا دون أن يزنى بل أبوه هو الزانى , لكن الرجل لا يعاقب بل الطفل , وسألنا أين الضمير يا شيخ ؟
وقلنا أن المجتمع الذى يعاقب الأطفا ل ليس عنده ضمير
فى بلادنا آلاف الأطفال محرومون من الشرف والحقوق الانسانية بسبب قانون النسب الأبوى القاصر على اسم الأب وحده , بسبب رغبة الأب فى توريث أبنائه من زوجته وحرمان أبنائه الاخرين رغم أنهم أبناؤه أيضا وهو الذى أنجبهم
قانون النسب الأبوى قائم على الظلم الاقتصادى والاجتماعى والأخلاقى للأطفال الأبرياء
وقلنا أن المجتمع الذى يتغنى ليل نهار بأغانى الأم يجب أن يكون اسم الأم فيه مشرفا وليس عارا
لماذا يشعر الولد بالعار حين يقولون له انت ابن أمك
والسؤال :
متى تحول اسم الأم من شرف الى عا ر فى التاريخ ؟
فى مصر القديمة كان اسم الأم مشرفا وهو الأساس
لأن الأمومة كانت الحقيقة والأبوة لم تكن معروفة فى الحضارات القديمة
وكانت المرأة ترمز الى الالهه الأم والأطفال ينسبون للأم
مع تقدم العلم واكتشاف دور الرجل فى عملية الاخصاب بدأت الأبوة تعرف
مع نشوء النظام العبودى وانقسام المجتمع الى أسياد وعبيد بدأت القوة هى التى تحكم وليس العدل وسيطر الرجال بالقوة على النساء واختفت الالهه الأم من التاريخ وظهر الاله الأب , وأصبح النسب الأبوى وحده هو القانون , وفقد النسب الأمومى قيمته , وتحول اسم الأم من شرف الى عا ر مع هبوط قيمة المرأة والصا ق تهمة الخطيئة الأولى بحواء الآثمة
تحولت المرأة من رمز الاله الى رمز الشيطان وانفصل الجسد عن الروح أو العقل
وأصبح الرجل يرمز الى العقل والروح المقدسة والمرأة ترمز الى الجسد المدنس
وبدأت الثنائيات والازدواجية فى الأخلاق والقوانين ومنها قانون الزواج الذى يجعل الرجل يملك المرأة وهى لا تملكه وله حق الطلاق وتعدد الزوجات والعلاقات خارج الزواج وحق الشرف والنسب وغيرها
أدت السلطة المطلقة فى الدولة والعائلة و الازدواجية فى القيم والمقاييس الى فساد الأخلاق اذ تمتع الرجا ل بفوضى جنسية أدت الى انتشار ظاهرة الأطفا ل غير الشرعيين يعاقبهم المجتمع وهم أطفا ل أبرياء ولا يعاقب آبائهم بل يتفاخر الرجا ل بغزواتهم الجنسية أكثر من غزواتهم العسكرية
هذا هو المجتمع الطبقى الأبوى الذى يحكم عالمنا شرقا وغربا , والذى يسعى فيه الرجا ل الى امتلاك الساطة والمال والنساء
وقد آن الأوان لكشف فساد هذا النظام الذى يؤدى الى الحرب والقتل من أجل النهب والسرقة , والى الدكتاتورية تحت اسم الحرية , والى الشرف المزيف تحت اسم الأخلاق
علينا أن نحمل أسماء أمهاتنا مع اسم الأب لأنه شرف لنا أن نعترف بفضل الأم علينا الأم التى تضحى بحياتها من أجلنا
لقد جئنا الى الحياة من داخل رحم الأم
لعبت الأم دورا أكبر من الأب فى مجيئنا الى الدنيا
فكيف يكون اسمها عارا
انها تستحق الشرف مثل الأب بل أكثر
ليست هذه قضية ثانوية بل هى قضية جوهرية تتعلق بالعدالة و الحرية والاخلاق والسياسة والاقتصاد والفلسفة والقانون والدين والعلم والفن
انها تمس حياتنا العامة والخاصة
هذه القضية ليست خاصة بالنساء فقط بل انها قضية مجتمع يسعى لاحياء ضميره الضائع منذ نشوء العبودية
منذ أصبحت القوة هى التى تحكم وليس العدل
بل انها قضية العالم الطبقى الأبوى كله الذى تسوده قوة السلاح والما ل وتراق فيه دماء الأبرياء من أجل سرقتهم ونهب مواردهم والتجارة بالجنس وأجساد النساء العارية من أجل ترويج البضائع .
سنحمل أسماء أمهاتنا من الآن فهذا هو حقنا وحقهن ومن تتنازل من حقها لا تستحق أن تكون انسانة . علينا أن نضرب النموذج لغيرنا من النساء

38 comments:

بلاه بلاه بلاه
كلام فاضي و سفسطة فاضية و خرابيط في خرابيط
للعلم لا حرام و لا عيب و لا بطّيخ.. و الانسان يوم القيامة ينادى بأسم امه و ليس بأسم أبوه. لأن الام معروفة

و بعدين اساس العدالة الأجتماعية عدم التمييز .. صح؟ فبالمثل، يرجى عدم اعادة الهلوسة بجمل مثل "الام التي تضحّي" على اساس الاب بيخلّف و بيرمي

مش عارف مين مجنون اكتر انتي و اللا نوال السعدانة
كتير مرات بحس انك متحاملة على الرجال بطريقة بشعة! شو عملنالك؟ انا و كل الرجال.. شو عملنالك؟

eshda3wa said...

so when u FINALLY allow comments u post in arabic
<--- gives u angry face

Mom's name Dad's name, I am proud of both. I never really gave it a thought, never thought that it was degrading or that was unappreciative to mom.
There are more important issue that we need to address about women's right.

ArabLady said...

Samer
I have no issues with men…on the contrary, men do!
Dr. Nawal is neither crazy nor insane…u don’t have to agree with her so she become intellectual & balanced…just let the women say what she thinks! Do such thinkers & writers destabilize your value system! Live & let others breathe for God’s sake
Your compliments always astonish me

ArabLady said...

Well honey it’s the first post in Arabic in almost two years…plus its written by Nawal not me : )

“so when u FINALLY allow comments”
About the comments, some people don’t have self respect so they don’t hesitate to attack the blogger for his thoughts as if all the glob should embrace one ideology & one religion….so ridiculous to see childish behaviors from ppl supposed to be rational & mature..i’m ok will all sorts of opinions & criticism though
Thanks for coming by

The Observer said...

Arablady, wow! I loved your blog and loved this post. Nawal Al Saadawi makes a lot of sense. She is the strongest woman I have ever heard of. Whenever I read something like this I feel very touched and ispired by her strength. It gives me hope and power to fight for a better life in our Arab world not just for women but for everyone as well.

ArabLady said...

Ok give me a break!
U r the first man in the Middle East probably who is a fan of Dr. Nawal! Ok let me ask you first are you a male & most importantly are u SINGLE!!
Ok 3an jad great I shouldn’t lose hope then..
But really they are giving her a hard time…I’m afraid she wont go back to Egypt again esp that AL Azhar put her in the Black List

ArabLady said...

H L&H
Agree with you that we do have more important critical dilemmas to tackle
driving is a trivial issue
Holding the mother’s name is not of importance
Freedom of relocating etc is not a priority for a woman
…etc
I believe that women’s illiteracy, domestic violence, the right to vote & nominate her self, biased civil law, & discrimination….etc are more important

BUT if the most trivial things are not recognized & denied then how are we going to achieve equality..please look at women in Yemen, KSA, Afghanistan & Iran just to avoid the question” what the hell are you lacking”

Anonymous said...

i just like to say that Nawal is not a muslim and she admitts herself. i saw alot of lectures to Nawal and she herself dosn't know how to excersize respect towards Muslims. she made fun of scarfed women in so many occasions,so why should we respect her or love her??

Stained said...

hmm...dunno who this Nawal person is so wont say anything about her...
@ arab lady...is there a english version of what you've posted...maybe you could mail me the link...

The Observer said...

Arab Lady, hehehe, yes I am a *male* man :), and I am Jordanian, but not single.

Looking at Nawa's past, she doesn't seem to fear anything. What would they do to her? She already has been into jail and love that experience.

Arab Lady, my delusional lost friend. The problem I have with Nawal Sadwai is not on what she's calling for (for example against Female circumcision, and to give more equal rights) but my issue is with her approach. See she manages to find a way -somehow- to always blame it on Muslims. (not christians, not jews, not religion) but Muslims. Especially with practices that are shared among all religions.

Anyway, she's what's considered an "Expressive Expressive". Instead of being Analytical, Driving or amiable, she expresses for the sake of expression
And you know what? That ruins her credibility, and make her sound more like a mad woman than a Professor

Anonymous said...

Arablady, you are lucky that you have so many readers, the unlucky part is not yours, it’s the rest of the Arab World who has one more poor representative to the outside.
It’s not about whether or not someone agrees with Dr. Nawal Al Saadawi, it’s about wasting time in talking about issues that are trivial and are even below the least concern of anyone.
I don’t know what the matter with you Arablady is, but you should stop portraying such a bad distorted image of what Islam is and what Arab is to the rest of the world.
The image is bad enough, there are one too many people out there making worse and worse by the minute, you gave the impression that you were not going to be one of them.
Stop posting videos that has Imams lecturing men on how to hit their wives and that hitting women is men’s duty, stop feeling sorry for yourself because you’re a virgin. If you want to go off having random sex with strangers, be my guest!! You can fix yourself up later, that option is AVAILBLE you know!
Just STOP IT RIGHT NOW, fix yourself, be true and honest to yourself. Don’t blame your failures on men.
GET OVER IT!

ArabLady said...

Attention every body anonymous comments wont be posted whatsoever but today is an acceptation coz I’m in a good mood!

@ Anonymous # 2

Listen babe first of u if u r A REAL MAN as u claim u should have the guts to reveal ur identity. Am I right?

Ok first of all
I’m not representing anybody to the outside. I’m representing my self, my thoughts, others experience, my concerns, & what I read in the media…etc. then who is the “Excellent” representative in your opinion? Those who lecture people in Mosques to beat up their wives? Why are you blaming me for problems deeply rooted in the society, listen, we should bring give up those problems to surface, talk about them, see what the reasons & causes are, tackle them TOGETHER. Yes together me, you, every body, religious leaders, journalists, teachers @ school, writers just everybody… What for? For a healthy balanced society. For you kids’ sake for my future kids’ sake. I don’t want my son to hit his sister tomorrow or interfere with her life in the name of many things I want to go through.

Second of all
What are the trial things that we bring up? They might be trivial and least of concern to you but vital & critical to us. It’s a matter of respect to our identity & existence.

Third of all
i’m bringing facts & articles that I came across so I don’t come up with imaginary stories! Its reality you just have to open your eyes to see how others are deprived of their rights becoze of their gender. Have you heard of that woman who will be executed in Yemen becoz she was seen with a man? She was deprived of her rights to have a lawyer! She even didn’t have sex with that guy! No witnesses! Nothing? A Female Yamani producer just made a film about the story of that poor lady & the film was banned!

What image are you talking about?
Go “Fix” the Imam in the video instead of pouring your blames for “being a bad representative”.

Finally, I’m very honest to myself as much as I want our society to be honest to itself.
By the way, I don’t blame my failure on men coz I don’t have failures in the first place. & you guys show some civilized attitude & discuss the topic instead of attacking the person.

Its so simple…
Those who don’t like my posts DO me a favor & don’t bother visiting the blog. Its so simple.. Its not meant to read by fanatics. This blog is not here to entertain you & will exist to reflect a certain segment of the society you chose to ignore.

ArabLady said...

Anonymous # 1
Hope next time when you leave a comment, you don’t forget to mention you name..i don’t care if Nawal is Muslim or Christian ….its none of my business & I don’t have to agree with every single word she says…her religion is between her & God…
I think she is not criticizing Hejab but believe it or not many writers & thinkers claim that Hejab is not a must. People are publishing books on this issue. It’s a matter of interpretation I guess. Anyways, I didn’t ask anybody to love or respect her. I’m not her lawyer either. But I m asking others to accept diversity & give themselves the chance to listen to others with respect. Thanks for passing by.

ArabLady said...

Hi stained!
Did u fix ur mood ;)or not yet..enjoy the rainy weather ..
So sorry man but didn’t find an English version of the article…will mail u what the article is all about….

Observer
Hala walla bel Jordanian male who is not SINGLE…
By the way she was jailed for a couple of months only & I guess jails nowadays in Egypt differ! Their creativity is increasing by time!

Qwaaider, my know –all, genius, & rational arab male friend.
Ta3abtili albi wala…sometimes I feel u drop a line for the sake of criticizing. What better approach do you want? She is using her pen is as a weapon to address issues. Probably she must bomb her self in a fish market full of men since many are used to this way of “Expression”. Just kidding!
I can understand that she pisses off Muslims in the Arab countries but deep inside wala she values the religion but criticizes how others interpret Quran & Islam. By the way, the practices you are talking about USED to be shared by many ancient civilizations & some religious systems. But they got over it & its time to vanish the old practices by US & move on. She might sound blaming Muslims coz the practices are still exercised by them in their societies. Listen I have read many novels & books by her BUT NEVER EVER came across one statement that defames Muslims. Just try to focus on the beautiful things she is calling for. Isn’t enough that she wishes if women could spend money on books as they do on shoes & make up?! That doesn’t mean anything to you?. I totally respect your opinion. Again I’m not her lawyer & didn’t ask ppl to love nor respect her. If things don’t go ur way, it doesn’t mean ppl are freaks with psychological disorders…walla wondering who is rational fena

يا رب تضل غزالتك رايئة علينا هيك و ما تطلع الجنّونة .. مش طبيعي شو منطقية و بتجنني و انتي هيك
يا ستي (يا مش ختيارة) زي ما قلتلك، في كتير اشياء بوافق معها فيها و بطالب فيها للمرأة و للمجتمع، لكن المشكلة في نوال انها بتطرحها بطريقة مهينة و مستفزة و شعنونة احيانا، شيئ لا يليق بدكتورة و مفكرة و بطبيعة الحال بيخلق رفض مباشر لبقية كلامها حتى و ان وافقنا على المعنى
يني زي اللي بينصح واحد بيقله: لا تقطع الشارع يا ابن الكلب. رح يقطعوا حتى لو اندعس! و الحشيش بالأشارة يفهم

Mohammed said...

Salam Arablady. i'm Anonymous1 and i'm not scared at all to reveal my ID. the thing is i'm not so into blogs and it's first time i share my thoughts as the topic drew my attention.

i just want to tell u something, that the syaing"her Religion is between her and God" is totally wrong. she can embrace whatever relegion she wants, however, she can't say that there are no relegions and Quran is human-made. i swear to God she said it and attacked Quran so many times. i want you to educate yourself more about her to know that she belongs to so many groups that considers islam as an enemy.

i do respect others beleifs and i've got myself a christain mother whom i love so terribly. as we accuse some imams for being block-minded we don't have to act like them and ignore others' beleifs.

Finally, i'd i think it's so soon to go deeper and talks about Aqidah in Islam. hope we're going to converse more often but just want to mention a verse in which i'd like you to contemplate :
""
وهو الذي في السماء إله وفي الأرض إله

please figure it out and enlighten us what does that mean""
وفي الأرض إله

wish we'll have a better tone of voice. let's have the intention of building a construtive debate rather arguing for the sake of argument.

Thanks Arablady and wish u all the best

Mohammed
London,26 year-old...lol..just to show u that i'm not terrified.

Perkunas said...

In a free society people can say that, "Quaran or Bible is human made," without fear of punishment. It is inevitable in a free society that when people are given a choice to believe what they want about God and religion that some of those people will choose to disbelieve in God, and, if so, they should have the right to state their beliefs. Religion has dominated the dialog about truth and ideas for too long -- it is only fair that another point of view is allowed to be heard on these issues.

The Observer said...

Arablady, I loved your replies to anonymous1,2 and Qwaider. I am beginning to admire you :)

ArabLady said...

Anonymous #1
OR mohammad, Ok what a lovely name that shouldn’t be hidden at all. Ok got ur point but some ppl are good at throwing few words full of hatred & then run away.

“”””i just want to tell u something, that the syaing"her Religion is between her and God" is totally wrong. she can embrace whatever religion she wants, however, she can't say that there are no relegions and Quran is human-made”””

First of all
I have never heard that Dr. Nawal has said that there are no religions & the Quran is human-made! Mohamad, before defaming or deteriorating the image of a public personality, kindly support you arguments with any articles or videos etc. listen she grew up in a religious yet open-minded environment & she read & studied the three holy books so she knows what she talks about.

Second
Since you brought up in Europe, I believe you have a clear understanding of what “Freedom of Expression” is all about, right? If one says this is no God, it wont destabilize your confirm belief that he is over there watching u. in a nutshell, let ppl decide what they want to believe in. we cant decide on their behalf claiming that we know what the right thing is.

And yes this blog is only for constructive debates & I do my best to have a good tone of voice but some ppl just love to cross the lines.

Enjoy globalization..ppl from 3 different continents r exchanging their thoughts. What a lovely & civilized way of communication. About that verse, its self explanatory. Thanks for your wishes.

ArabLady said...

@ Qwaider
Ba3raf el Arabs tin7een w her way of expression mish 3a mara2ak but again I respect your opinion after all.

@ Perkunas
Totally agree with you! thx 4 sharing your thoughts

@ Observer
Thanks although my heart is still broken & hurt….Say hi to her ;)

Ozzy4freinds said...

A few posts back you wanted to start a marketing group....are you still up for that?

Anonymous said...

i've been looking for the play here in jordan and couldn't find it , i still have a couple of bookstores to check , but i don't think that it's avalible here , i think i'll order it from the internet .

moe said...

ArabLady,
a-ssalamu 'alaykum
kayfa haluki?

I've always wanted to go to Arab world ,
but I do not kwnow when that will be.

Well.
I linked your blog from my blog.

moe said...

ArabLady,

I would like to talk with you.
We are a famiry of three,
my husband, my son and myself.

I am not good at English
and there are many mistakes in my coment,
but I hope you will read it.
I have studied English for seven years,
but I need a lot of time to write in English.
We don't have much chance to speak English here in Japan.

This is about all for today.

LOVE,
MOE

Imaan On Ice said...

Salam miss Arab Lady, I'm not gonna comment on the post itself(not because of any other reason than lack of time) but I just want to say I am truly so glad to see that you're back, alhamdulillah!!! Really. Blogging is hard, I hope you found your own way to handle it.

And pls rap up a summary in english, eh?

Love //Imaan

Finally you are back and allowing comments :) Hala feeki ya bint!

Keeping your mothers name is not haram. Where do such idiotic statements come from?

You know I can't stand the way some people in the arab and some asian countries totally disregard the involvement of the mother. She carried us for 9 months, nurtured us, did most work and yet the dad gets all the credit for some semen? Ya3ni mashallah 3aleih! they forget under what feet God placed paradise...

Stained said...

yup..my mood is fine..:)
will wait for your mail...
& nice replies...but just don't let them screw your mood now...
cheers...
take care
-stained

rosh said...

Arablady - I just wanted to say, I read your blog often and respect your views. It's not an easy world, these days - stand up for what you truly believe in - there are so few who truly do that.

Keep going - don't let the naysayer’s drive you off track.

ArabLady said...

@ Ozzy4friends
If you have a specific idea in mind, please don’t hesitate to e-mail me. welcome to my space!

@ Anonymous # 3
I don’t think that we would find it unless they approve it in the first place. By the way, i guess u forgot ur name or probably u r nameless!

@ Moe
Wa alaykum al salam honey
Well the arab countries are rich with many wonderful historical places that u would love to c and visit..Moe, although I’m living in An Arab country, we rarely speak our mother tongue language in this city…whether in a supermarket, restaurant, shopping mall, or even at work English is what people speak,,,unfortunately that helped a lot in losing the cultural identity..Send my regards to your family

@ Iman
Thanks Iman! Yes Blogging is hard and I’m glad I didn’t push the DELETE button yet!

@ SS
Hala Hala Sweeeeeti …sounds all Swedish women are 3asal !
Maybe its a holy semen! She is just calling for having BOTH NAMES.

@ Stained
The weather is getting HOT :S & yes Check ur e-mail

ArabLady said...

@ Rosh
It’s tiring to swim against the flow! but yes Be the Change you Want to SEE in the World

Thanks for dropping a line

lol at holy semen! ya salaaaaaaaaaam

*hugs*

Arablady, I don't deny Yemen Afghanistan and other parts of the world have problems with regards on how they view women and how they are treated.

But have you sat with them and listened to their version of the story? I have treated 2 women from that part of the world while here in Canada for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Two of them wear the Hijab, two lived in an environment that most of us see as oppressed but let me tell you, they never felt oppressed, that is the way of their lives.

Some people are happy with the norms they live in, they were brought up in those same conditions generation after generation and to them, this is life. What we have the tendancy to do is to impose our norms onto others, which is a big mistake.

The only place I would interfere or try to bring in change is when it is physical. Psychological harm is up to the person to endorse. And what psychological shakes a western woman might not shake you or me or a woman in Afghanistan.

I love the fact you are opinionated AL, but my sisterly advice is to give the men some credit and give them a break.

Anonymous said...

I'm Anonymous#2, and I'm a girl just like you.
You should learn how to pick your battles.
You ARE expressing your freedom of speech, but you are also giving a certain image to all those who read your blogs. I do agree with some things you say and you present, I simply don't agree with the way you packaged things to your audience. You certainly come out to look desperate and oppressed, which I am pretty sure you are not considering the fact that you live in Dubai or Sharjah!
Anyway, my point is, don’t make fun or “tonshori ghaseel” what you don’t agree with, by all means DO WRITE ABOUT IT, but don’t put it out as something that happens everywhere and all the time in Arab and Islamic countries.
It’s already destructed, it’s already self destructive, try to be constructive and make a change. Don’t sit there behind your screen feeling sorry for yourself and reading about how other “Arab Ladies” failed to deliver their messages and do the same thing, learn from others’ mistakes.
Dr. Nawal writes for the sake of controversy, I have nothing but respect for her and her intellect and knowledge, but she comes on too strong and too opinionated… too indigestible and shocking for most. We don’t need one more of those, be objective, be constructive and above all, be true to yourself.

All Seeing Eye said...

to anonymous 2 or 3 or whatever:
you claim that arablady hides behind her screen, u hide behind some anonymous nickname with no identity.
u claim that it's shocking, shocks is what we need to change this pittyful miserable desperate present situation and beliefs in our arab country.
the message goes far beyond the mother name , it's about rights, freedom of expression, freedom of love, freedom of religious beliefs, etc... (and please dont reply by saying we refuse to import our bliefs from western civilization because im not saying that and because listening to the same old regressive rusty arab arguments make me sick to death).
regards

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