21 June, 2008

At this very moment …I feel like shooting my sister in law for being the worst mother on Earth…I always had the feeling that she has some mental disorders that belong to her early childhood since she was oppressed by her fanatic family….

She didn’t want to have her first child & in my opinion she successfully failed in raising her three yrs old kido ….the disastrous part that she is pregnant!!!! She doesn’t like kids!! Is it not educated enough to raise kids! She has a very short temper….

I wish if I would yell at her & say that u cant even take care of a rabbit

Fuck!!!!!!!!!!!! She deliberately abuse her son

Not every women can be a good mother….childhood should be protected by a third party in case parents failed in fulfilling their responsibilities…where the hell do u find this in the Arab World!!!

Tell me how on Earth could a proper parent shout at his/her child…

I’m so upset

10 comments:

D said...

Deliberately abuses her son???? How???

D said...

But sometimes it is necessary to discipline a child... therefore shouting comes into play. But there are limits... it all depends on whether your SIL crossed that limit.

Stained said...

I agree with 'D'...
when a woman cant be a good mother, usually you look to talk to the father for help...if that fails then all you can do is to be their for the child in times of need...

Dawn said...

Why don't you say it in her face? I know I would... No child deserves to be mistreated, or recomment a good psyco therapist. being a mom is a blessing and if she's oblivious about it someone needs to give her a dose of reality and some maternal love.

Shahida said...

Hi... I'm a Singaporean who got to know your blog from one of my friend. I have to say that I really admire the way you expressed yourself in your blog. After my VERY BAD experience in Dubai (I was there in Dubai for 3 years = 1 and half year working another 1 and half year FIGHTING FOR MY FREEDOM), I always have the feelings that arab lady are knows nothing except for SHOPPING and SHOWING OFF THEIR EXPENSIVE STUFF even though its not nice (SORRY!!!). But after reading your blog, I know that I was wrong, and there is arab ladies (a minority I guess) who is smart, intelectual and knows what they actually want in life. Salute you sister...

With regards to your nephew, I feel really bad for the child. I myself is a mother. I do scold my child at times to educate her but not to the extend of hurting or abusing her. And if she knows that she don't like kids, why the hell she get pregnant at the first place? go and use protection... Offff...

I always believe a happy childhood will lead to a successful live. Childhood plays a very important part of our life. Looks like your sister in law does not have one... and not wanting her own child to have one too... Too bad...

Anyway, I have linked you. Keep on writing... :) Salam...

She comes from a lesser family? And uneducated, hates kids, opressed by her family
Why did your brother get married to her in the first place?! Since she's below you!!?

Arab Lady said...

I’m really sorry if I’m not replying back to each one of you…but sometime I dunno what to say …my thoughts are not organized these days & I hate reading my posts as I do find zillions of misspellings & grammatical catastrophes so its good that you guys still manage to understand my daily crap :)

Thanks for passing by ….

Arab Lady said...

D
In my humble opinion, there is no justification what so ever for screaming, shouting at & giving names to your THREE YEARS OLD SON

What so ever..she has been doing so since day one….what kind of discipline are u talking about!
This small creature needs love, affection & a good mother who got what it takes to spend quality time with her kids
Stained
She doesn’t dare to do so in front of her husband …she knows what he would do ! me & mom cant help! Its come from the person him/her self
Dawn,
I don’t mingle with her..i rarely see her as well during the weekend…I’m not ready for a fight!
Your would realize the value of ur blessings after you lose them
He sister waited more than 12 years till he had her first baby after spending a fortune of course..so she should learn better from others experience!

Qwaider
I don’t want to blame my sister for arranging such a marriage but I assure you that he is not very happy with what he got!!!

Arab Lady said...

Shahida

Well I’m sad to hear that u had unpleasant time in Dubai…this city is meant to be for certain people….hope you have found your nest away from the shallow-minded life you saw here…

Arab women have been programmed to think the way your expalied…they are not allowed to challenge themselves nor their counterparts ….getting her self a husband is always admired more than getting a degree or running her own business! Its like something extra your do…which might not be appreciated by others …& BY UR SELD AFTER A WHILE..you know why? Becoz you will be brainwashed…everyone will diminish your achievements until u lose the excitement u had…

They will convince u that its not your game to play ….dont lose hope….we do exist & I hope to fall under the category of the “smart, intellectual and know what they actually want in life”

Keep in touch & thx for sharing your views…I will be pleased to see you around

BTW sorry for the loooooooooong reply ;)

Sahar said...

طيـــــــب ليش ما تحاولين تلتقين معاها في منتصف الطريق...
انتي في براسج موال عنيف ضدها، ولكن في الواقع ما تتدخلين... شو رايج لما تصرخ على ابنها أو تعامله معاملة سيئة تقولينلها "في رايج انتي الحين تخلينه انسان أحسن"
اقترحي عليها طرق عقاب متحضرة
انتي متعلمة أكثر منها صح؟ فهميها بطريقة لبقة وودودة
تعالي على نفسج شوي وحاولي تتفقين وياها عشان مصلحة عيال أخوج
لكن اذا اخترتي تتبعين اسلوب صراع الجبابرة الخاسر الوحيد هو طفل برئ من لحمج ودمج
مو معنى تعليقي أني ما اتفق وياج لكني أحاول أساعدج تفكرين في حلول حضارية وودية
تحياتي