07 April, 2007

The Forbidden Love: When A Muslim Girl Falls In Love With A Christian Guy

We grow up in conditions that we can’t change. Sometimes, we are not supposed to change them. We ask ourselves questions with lost answers. Actually we know the answer, but the truth hurts.

Last night my friend asked me why we, as Muslim girls, cant get married to non-Muslim guys. “Its not fair”, “why men cant do it while we cant”, “are we animals”, love doesn’t know boundaries & religions”, “had shi bishi3” ( its sucks in Arabic)..etc!

Her rants really shocked me not because of the subject itself but becoz I know she is going to another adventurous relationship that will lead to nothing but pain & suffering. I was like for God’s sake mish na2isna!

A male friend of her started expressing his love& that if things were different he would allow himself to fall in love with her! To him she is idealism that leads to perfection! “loved his expression by the way!” The guy is Christian, Lebanese but of Armenian descent.

“He sings brilliantly, his voice is awesome, I like the way he talks, walks, he is adventurous, romantic, all in all I LIKE HIM”!!!!

They have been friends since ages and she never ever expected him to confess his special feelings. But it sounds friendship by time might turn into love! She just likes him but I’m afraid she will start falling. I keep asking her WHY DO U ATTRACT THE WRONG GUYS!

Personally, I don’t mind getting married to a Shii’ or even Christian! But if you choose to have a babe, then what religion is he going to embrace? If both parents aren’t highly educated &open-minded, the kid will be confused, torn into two pieces & lost between two religions, Islam & Christianity. Bearing in mind that Islam doesn’t allow women to marry a non-Muslim person, the whole issue seems impossible. Sometimes we get lost in life’s complexities. She told me about her Sunni friend that has been in love with a Shii guy for about five years. Her parents keep refusing the guy! It’s the worst torture that could happen to someone. The disastrous part is that Women can’t get married without their father’s permission, or any one in his place, otherwise the whole marriage will not be recognized.

If the situation was different, I would tell that girl to go ahead and marry that guy or run away with him! My friend was like would you do so? I was like YES OF COURSE..! but the situation is not different anyways...

أسماء أمهاتنا شرف لنا

01 April, 2007

Two days ago I argued with my sister about the theory of holding the mothers’ name. She desperately tried to convince me its 7aram, kufr, blab blah… So to 7ayati my sister& to every one else,

I post this old article written by Dr. Nawal Al Saadawi! Isn’t amazing! By the way, unfortunately Nawal’s latest theater play is not available at the largest bookstore in Dubai :S Help! :(

Enjoy the article!

أسماء أمهاتنا شرف لنا
بقلم د. نوال السعداوى
القاهرة 8 ابريل 2006

لماذا أثارت رغبة الكاتبة والشاعرة د. منى حلمى فى أن تحمل اسم امها مع اسم أبيها كل هذا الغضب ؟
والغريب أن غضب النساء كان أكبر من غضب الرجال
أو ربما ليس غريبا
نحن نعرف أن المسجون لسنين طويلة يخا ف الخروج من باب السجن حين يفتح .
لهذا السبب تخا ف أغلب النساء الحرية , تعودن الخضوع لسلطة الرجا ل خوفا من الطلاق أو النشوز أو فقدان ظل الأما ن فى كنف الرجل ( ظل رجل ولا ظل حيطة )
وأغلب الامهات يعاملن بناتهن بقسوة أكثر من الآباء
وهذا أمر ناتج عن القهر الطويل والعبودية الضاربة فى التاريخ منذ آلاف السنين .
سمعت آراء بعض الأساتذة العلماء فى صحيح الدين ومنهم الأستاذ جمال البنا الذى أكد على شاشة التلفزيون أن أسم الأم شرف فى الاسلام ومن المفروض أن يحمل الأطفال اسم الأم والأب معا لأنهما يشتركان معا فى انتاج الطفل بل ان دور الأم أكبر
وهناك من فقهاء الاسلام من نسب الى أمه , أبن تميمة مثلا


وفى أيامنا هذه يحمل رؤساء حكومات أسماء أمهاتهم مثل :
زاباتيرو رئيس وزراء أسبانيا
هنية رئيس وزراء فلسطين
السنيورة رئيس وزراء لبنان
وهناك رجا ل عظماء فى التاريخ نسبوا لامهاتهم منهم شكسبير ونيوتن وأينشتاين وبيكاسو وباخ
وفى التاريخ القديم حمل النبى عيسى ( المسيح ) اسم أمه مريم وكان يفخر بها وهى المرأة الوحيدة التى ذكرها القرآن باسمها مريم احتراما لشخصيتها , فالأسم جزء من شخصية الانسان , بدون اسم لا يوجد الشخص ,
تجريد الانسان من اسمه هو اهانة كبيرة , لذلك حين تدخل السجن تفقد اسمك وتتحول الى رقم .
بعض القيادات النسائية ( حاملات النظريات الاشتراكية ) مطوا شفاهم وشمخوا بأنوفهم وقالوا ما أهمية اسم الأم هناك قضايا أكثر أهمية مثل الفقر والأمية
و منهن من هى فى المجلس القومى للمرأة حاضرة على الدوام مع السيدة الأولى فى مؤتمرات مكافحة الفقر .
أما القيادات المتأسلمات فقد رددن آية " وادعوهم لآبائهم " دون فهم لمعناها وأسباب نزولها ودون ذكر لبقية الآية على غرار " ولا تقربوا الصلاة "
أما الزعيمة التى كانت شيوعية ثم أصبحت رأسمالية نيوليبرالية فقد قالت هذه فكرة مستوردة من الغرب وتدعو الى الاباحية .
وقا ل رجل يحتل وظيفة دينية أن من يحمل اسم أمه هو ابن زنا لأن اسم الأب هو الذى يعطى الشرف للأطفال
واندهشنا كيف يعاقب الطفل البرىء ويطلق عليه ابن زنا دون أن يزنى بل أبوه هو الزانى , لكن الرجل لا يعاقب بل الطفل , وسألنا أين الضمير يا شيخ ؟
وقلنا أن المجتمع الذى يعاقب الأطفا ل ليس عنده ضمير
فى بلادنا آلاف الأطفال محرومون من الشرف والحقوق الانسانية بسبب قانون النسب الأبوى القاصر على اسم الأب وحده , بسبب رغبة الأب فى توريث أبنائه من زوجته وحرمان أبنائه الاخرين رغم أنهم أبناؤه أيضا وهو الذى أنجبهم
قانون النسب الأبوى قائم على الظلم الاقتصادى والاجتماعى والأخلاقى للأطفال الأبرياء
وقلنا أن المجتمع الذى يتغنى ليل نهار بأغانى الأم يجب أن يكون اسم الأم فيه مشرفا وليس عارا
لماذا يشعر الولد بالعار حين يقولون له انت ابن أمك
والسؤال :
متى تحول اسم الأم من شرف الى عا ر فى التاريخ ؟
فى مصر القديمة كان اسم الأم مشرفا وهو الأساس
لأن الأمومة كانت الحقيقة والأبوة لم تكن معروفة فى الحضارات القديمة
وكانت المرأة ترمز الى الالهه الأم والأطفال ينسبون للأم
مع تقدم العلم واكتشاف دور الرجل فى عملية الاخصاب بدأت الأبوة تعرف
مع نشوء النظام العبودى وانقسام المجتمع الى أسياد وعبيد بدأت القوة هى التى تحكم وليس العدل وسيطر الرجال بالقوة على النساء واختفت الالهه الأم من التاريخ وظهر الاله الأب , وأصبح النسب الأبوى وحده هو القانون , وفقد النسب الأمومى قيمته , وتحول اسم الأم من شرف الى عا ر مع هبوط قيمة المرأة والصا ق تهمة الخطيئة الأولى بحواء الآثمة
تحولت المرأة من رمز الاله الى رمز الشيطان وانفصل الجسد عن الروح أو العقل
وأصبح الرجل يرمز الى العقل والروح المقدسة والمرأة ترمز الى الجسد المدنس
وبدأت الثنائيات والازدواجية فى الأخلاق والقوانين ومنها قانون الزواج الذى يجعل الرجل يملك المرأة وهى لا تملكه وله حق الطلاق وتعدد الزوجات والعلاقات خارج الزواج وحق الشرف والنسب وغيرها
أدت السلطة المطلقة فى الدولة والعائلة و الازدواجية فى القيم والمقاييس الى فساد الأخلاق اذ تمتع الرجا ل بفوضى جنسية أدت الى انتشار ظاهرة الأطفا ل غير الشرعيين يعاقبهم المجتمع وهم أطفا ل أبرياء ولا يعاقب آبائهم بل يتفاخر الرجا ل بغزواتهم الجنسية أكثر من غزواتهم العسكرية
هذا هو المجتمع الطبقى الأبوى الذى يحكم عالمنا شرقا وغربا , والذى يسعى فيه الرجا ل الى امتلاك الساطة والمال والنساء
وقد آن الأوان لكشف فساد هذا النظام الذى يؤدى الى الحرب والقتل من أجل النهب والسرقة , والى الدكتاتورية تحت اسم الحرية , والى الشرف المزيف تحت اسم الأخلاق
علينا أن نحمل أسماء أمهاتنا مع اسم الأب لأنه شرف لنا أن نعترف بفضل الأم علينا الأم التى تضحى بحياتها من أجلنا
لقد جئنا الى الحياة من داخل رحم الأم
لعبت الأم دورا أكبر من الأب فى مجيئنا الى الدنيا
فكيف يكون اسمها عارا
انها تستحق الشرف مثل الأب بل أكثر
ليست هذه قضية ثانوية بل هى قضية جوهرية تتعلق بالعدالة و الحرية والاخلاق والسياسة والاقتصاد والفلسفة والقانون والدين والعلم والفن
انها تمس حياتنا العامة والخاصة
هذه القضية ليست خاصة بالنساء فقط بل انها قضية مجتمع يسعى لاحياء ضميره الضائع منذ نشوء العبودية
منذ أصبحت القوة هى التى تحكم وليس العدل
بل انها قضية العالم الطبقى الأبوى كله الذى تسوده قوة السلاح والما ل وتراق فيه دماء الأبرياء من أجل سرقتهم ونهب مواردهم والتجارة بالجنس وأجساد النساء العارية من أجل ترويج البضائع .
سنحمل أسماء أمهاتنا من الآن فهذا هو حقنا وحقهن ومن تتنازل من حقها لا تستحق أن تكون انسانة . علينا أن نضرب النموذج لغيرنا من النساء

30 March, 2007

God Resigns in the Summit Meeting

The new play, “God Resigns in the Summit Meeting”, by Dr. Nawal Al Saadawi initiated a new war between the poor writer and the religious leaders & authorities in Egypt.

In fact I guess Nawal’s imagination went way too far this time with her brave creative & critical way of writing. To Islamists, Dr. Nawal has crossed all the red, blue and purple lines by describing God & his messengers and drawing a kind of conversation between them in the play.
According to an article published in the Gulf New, Saadawi Says "My book contains nothing offensive to religion. This confiscation is a violation of the reader's right to choose and judge the worth of a book for themselves. These people want to stifle our imagination. If my ideas are questioned and suspected, they should be debated, not suppressed. A work of art should be judged by the critics, not religious clerics or government bureaucrats."
God Resigns in the Summit Meeting looks into current socio-economic and religious issues in Egypt, according to Saadawi.

"I feel worried about the future of Egypt whose young people are denied a real chance to be educated and exercise their minds. Confiscation provides a breeding ground for extremism," she said.

I’m dying to read the play. I e-mailed Mugrudy’s Bookstore to check if they do have the book. I’m not sure if I will find it in Dubai but I’ll hopefully manage to bring it from either Jordan or Lebanon. In Egypt, they got rid of 3000 copies! 7araaaaaaaaaaaaam!!! I’m a big fan of her writings but she touched an issue that is considered sensitive & taboo. I guess creativity & religion contradicts as it does contradict with liberalism.

Who doesnt know Nawal Al Saadawi? Nawal El Saadawi is a novelist, a psychiatrist, and a writer who is well known both in the Arab countries and in many other parts of the world. Her novels and her books on the situation of women have had a deep effect on successive generations of young women over the last 4 decades

I have read some of her novels like 'Women at Point Zero','Women in the Kingkom of Oil','The Death of the Last Man on Earth'and some non-fiction books like 'Woman is the Origin' &'Memories from the Women's Prison' .

I really admire this women & her way ऑफ़ thinking।I'm really sorry that she is not appreciated by her country!You might not agree with her totally but one cant deny that she is fighting for social equality, women empowerment, justice, and education।

By the way, she's really lucky to have a supporting husband!

29 March, 2007

Make Poverty History

Have you ever thought about how far you have contributed to your community, to humanity’s progress? Are you another hopeless creature who is just consuming oxygen and Mother Nature’s resources?

Can you list any 10 activities or accomplishments you have done so far for the environment or humanity?
Hmm you can’t list any! Same here! Do feel ashamed like me? Believe me it’s never too late.

Make a difference today, wipe a tear, replace it with a smile, and join forces to make poverty history.

Please visit the organization’s website and have a look at what they do in Emirates:
http://www.makepovertyhistory.ae/

Be the Change You Want to See in the World- Mahatma Gandhi

Have you even read something inspiring like this! This statement charges me with loads of energy and strength. It’s my Motto from now onwards!

God Bless

Wife Beating- Only a rod will help!

12 March, 2007

Missing U

11 March, 2007

i miss u baba i really miss u ...i want u back in my life....i always ask God why u! i love u more than anything in life...really thank u ...although u cant do much to prtotect my little dream but i'm so proud to have a father like u...u were always there for me...missing our discussions in the balcony ...missing ur talks about me in every social gathering...missing ur unlimited support ....do u remember when we used to go for a ride by the beach...do u still remember my fav ice cream ...do u remember when we used to go shopping together...thanks 4 dropping me off to school everyday...i'm sorry 4 not showing my love to u ...have i ever said i love u dad...dont ever leave me alone...i dunno wut to do in life without u ...i love u 7abeby ...life has no meaning without ur blessings

i dedicate this song to u ...i know u love Om Kolthom as much as i love her..do u remember when we used to fight in the car ..u wanted to listen to her while i wanted to listen to Radio Sawa...and then we decide to switch the radio off and start i laughing...

wish if u were reading my lines

love u

04 March, 2007

Rhonada Britten

I have 3 options:

A) Delete my online diary & go back to documentaing my thoughts using the traditional way.

B) Start a new blog without telling who the hell i'm.

C) Keep this blog but turn off the comments thing.

till now i didnt decide..

At the moment i'm reading Rhonada's book ' Change your life in 30 days' & here are some statements that caught my attention & made me really think about what they might mean to me....

• ' When we make things up about the way people feel or think, it only confirms our low self-worth.'
• 'Invest in the life you have to get the life you want.'
• ' How you process information creates your perceptions & perceptions creates your world.'
• ' Dont focus on whether or not you achieved your ultimate goal. Acknowledgments are about the journey to becoming more true to yourself, not the end result.'
• ' In order to gain confidence you must take the risk you dont want to take'.
• ' Our fears of failure keeps us from doing the things we yearn to do'.

I'm still thinking about each & every sentence i've read so far..am i gonna change my life in 30 days? this is the question!

Honor Killing Again

02 March, 2007

When the civilized spirit vanishes, human beings become animals
They kill, they forget ethics, and they crown themselves as judges

A new victim in the name of culture, in the name of honor, in the name of manhood
Rest in peace
Yesterday was your turn
Tomorrow is hers

****For English speaking readers, the story is all about a Jordanian nephew who killed his aunt after seeing a man jumping from her balcony (as he claims)

Well the victim was virgin! Give me a reasonable explanation you people who ask me to be rational!

Can you imagine a world without men? No crime and lots of happy fat women. ~Nicole Hollander

In Deep Shit

25 February, 2007

It sounds that I want to live in my own world with my own rules & it won’t work that way…my dreams of having a perfect Job & an excellent Salary ..etc were just dreams and I do have to live as a normal person who accepts what life gives her without seeking more …yesterday I received an e-mail seeking ass holes to work with them in the event management & entertainment arena…the financial benefits made me give the issue a second thought! Why not! 2 or 3 yrs and then that’s it! Plz Allah Strength my Faith in You!! My boss asked my to stay till next week so I can train the new candidate who will take my place…I dunno if I made the right choice by leaving my job! What I know that this year will be a tough one!

23 February, 2007

Time passes and my belief about Arab women oppression increases. yesterday my colleague at work asked me if I have a boy friend. I said no all of them are jerks and game players…she said yup agree & that’s what I figured out the first day I stepped into the country..so you are still virgin??

Well to be honest with you I haven’t been asked such a question before!

I just started to explain to her our culture! After that conversation she thanked God for not being a Muslim nor an Arab!

Well, actually I told her the truth and nothing other than Truth! I just explained that in our culture females are not allowed to date, have boyfriends, or even to have sex b4 marriage. I also told her about horror killing in the Arab World and how virginity is important to a female in order to get married & how women are treated like items.

I just gave her an idea about men being superior to us and any female should surrender her personal freedom in order to adhere to society rules! She felt sorry for us! And I truly feel sorry for myself living in sick cultures & feel sorry for other women who r living in harsh situation & keep their mouths shut!

The other day I saw an Arab lady in the washing room, with tight clothes, FULL HEAVY MAKE UP, and with 10 liters of perfume poured on her body. But guess what? She was wearing a headscarf !!! a head scarf!! What the hell?

Are you deceiving yourself? Take it off babe or ur papy wont allow u to do so!!

For Arabic Speaking human beings, kindly entertain urselves by reading this awesome article!

Enjoy! Thanks God for not being Saudi

http://www.alarabiya.net/Articles/2007/02/23/31960.htm

16 February, 2007

I’ll go nuts & banana ppl

It’s humiliating to reach to such a stage!

Read what the idiot is suggesting! To Hell with virginity!

http://www.alarabiya.net/Articles/2007/02/16/31736.htm

Thanks to Local Expat

Watch this video about Honor Killing. Isn't interesting to know about what people think about Islam!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6P2rgUx87Yg&eurl ( A MUST SEE)

if interested to watch more videos
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxLt1F428X4&mode=related&search=

To know more about her, have a look at her website: http://www.maryamnamazie.com/

If any body is interested in founding an association/group for marketing grads in UAE, E-mail me please.


Regards,

I can’t understand one thing about Arab Men. Actually I don’t understand anything about them.

Why they are game players! Why they cheat? Why they play around with the woman’s feelings? Why they torture us just to have fun?

Do you remember the story of my friend & the married man?
His wife kept calling my friend yesterday! She wants divorce? Imagine she has two kids and pregnant! She can’t tolerate his childish disrespectful behaviors any more!

I agree with her. If I were her, I would go for divorce what so ever! The poor woman is pregnant; me & my friend are really concerned about her and the baby!

Her bustard husband is sick! I’m sure he is sick! To have relations with zillions of girls while you are a father of two amazing sons, husband & Muslim is shameful.
I really can’t digest what kind of horrible men you are!

Let’s pray for the women! May God fill your heart with peace! Even if I don’t know you, I really support you. The kids will suffer but at least it was their dad’s decision to disrespect the marriage bond.

Yesterday I felt that I’m so cheap. I have been deceived. I have been fooled. I was just a name on Mr. Casanova’s LONG list. I duno if he was testing me to verify whether I’m qualified or not. My friend tried to explain that men in our culture never respect the woman they date! They never think seriously of her. WHY!!! What a mentality! What about the girls who don’t believe in the traditional marriage!

I’m really tired! Tired of people, tired of the way they think! Men don’t respect the uncovered women, men don’t don’t respect women they date, men don’t , men do , men men men…

I cleaned the list of contacts saved on my mobile on the valentine’s day. I promised to stop thinking about wrong people I met in my life. I really wana forget the bad experience I have been through. My depressing friend doesn’t help me to do so. She is pulling me down but I’m trying my best not to sink. She will go to a physiologist tomorrow so I might join to give support. She is obsessed with getting engaged! Any 3areees around! Let it me know!

Quik hi to:

Summer, UAE Allias( don’t tell me you deleted your blog, I forgot to ask u about it!), Abed Hamdan, 3anooda, Feras, Abu Faris & Madamto! (stop eating man!), Sabra, Arab Women (Yalla Start Blogging!), Jumana, CLAAAAAAAAAAy (where in sharjah by the way!!), dinoooooooooooo & her Cow (mafi Hi to Hamoda taba3ik!! Ana my blog is anti-men), Habebti Digital Niqabi, Arima, Dubai Guy, D, Hanaaaaaaaaaan (tawli bali3 3al 3alam sitna ;) ), Karrrrrrrrima ( I don’t advice u to move to dubai karima), Faisal, Mohamad (how Is the new job)…Sha’raaaaaaaa 7abibty, Moe, Nash, Hajaj, Danah and every body!

Mmmm taba3an Mr. Khaled Nazal, Adel, & Mr. Quider (ya khayee batel tlatish fina!, at any rate, I dunno taltishak mit el 3asal 3a albi dunno why!)

I say Hi to North Star taba3an( thanks 4 ur sweet e-mails), John Orford, Gregory Delhaye (are u going to offer me a job ;) ), My anonymous readers who send me E-mails..


I am so excited, I will go to dubai Airport this afternoon to welcome a friend coming from Qatar ( I haven’t seen her for 6 years!!!!!!!!!!!!)

I feel I wanna talk talk & talk..i do have things to say about my work, boss, blab blah…

Yalla to be continued…

Yalla have a wonderful day..
Love you,

Arab Lady

26 January, 2007

I woke up this morning trying to be positive and optimistic but its sounds its really difficult in this culture

I started my day with an article” besid el nifs”….about a Jordanian man who shot his daughter to death! She escaped for two weeks so he suspected that she was involved in sexual affairs dragging her family name through the mud!

But the girl was virgin!!!!!!!!!!!! Virgin...i hate this worl "VIRGIN"

Where is our right to live?
Did the police or the man himself ask why she escaped? What the hell she was living in ? Where is the law to protect us from being slaughtered by brothers, fathers, and family members?
Let’s assume that she was a whore, so what? It’s her life.

To ALL ARAB MEN: Go TO HELL

Who is responsible for such a mentality? Muslims….i already started to hate Muslims but not Islam..No wonder why all the world hate Arabs & Muslims!!!

I dunno when its my turn to be shot in head by my brother… I know its soon but I should escape before that day comes…

To all Women: we can’t change their culture so lets escape before the slaughter day…
Take care coz you will never know when your brother or father will shoot you to death..

With Love,
Frightened Arab Lady

26 December, 2006

Hi guys …sounds this blog will turn into a chatting room…anyways life is good,

work is not bad,,,so far haven’t met any hot clients :((

On Sunday I ate “Tabeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekh” !!!

Yes tabeekh! Tabeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekh ..yummy yummm…Finally my sister in law cooked something eatable! Oh waiting for my brother to come so I can kick her out of my house! I am so frustrated coz she is useless! Wheneverr I wanna check on Sandy and Keri…there is no water nor food!! Oh gosh! Although she is staying all day home, she doesn’t bother having a look to c if there is food 4 the cats!!

Let me guys take the opportunity to apologize to Sandy and Keri for not being caring enough!! Love u my little angelsssssssssssssssssss….Feras I’ll post their pic some day just to show u adi they r cute a7la min ur skiiiiny scary cat!

Ok…Yesterday I reached home at 7:30...too early! No traffic since it was Chrismas..oh by the way Merry Christmas to you guys…so I was in bed by 8:00 pm! : ) ….ppl were calling me from everywhere lebanon ..Jordan and I didn’t bother to pick up the phone! Don’t they know that I sleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep early! I should buy an alarm so I can switch off my mobile whenever I wana go to bed…

Missing my parents …so sad that things didn’t work with dad’s operation….that operation was the last hope….i miss him …miss looking into his hazel eyes….miss his talks about me and my future…miss his unlimited support against mom!

Anyways I got to go now otherwise I will start crying…..thx 4 ur sweet e-mails & 4 passing by….sorry 4 not being able to comment on ur blogs but I check them regularly…Happy New Year in advance ….by the way have u asked ur self wut things u accomplished in 2006 and things u wanna do and achieve in the coming year? Are u satisfied with the human being u r ?? I asked my self such questions and more so I might share the answers with u b4 the new year….

Yalla enjoy ur day ..byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Note: plz overlook any grammatical or spelling mistake!

20 December, 2006

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii guys!

I missed all like hell…wala zaman 3al blogging….ok ok now I am working 7 days a week so obviously I have NO TIME to scratch my head!

My boss wants me to be a consultant, copywriter, spokesperson…………blab blah…all at once! My life is hectic so I might consider buying a mat to sleep in da office….isn’t much better!


It was my pleasure knowing u guys….whenever u come to UAE or Dubai just e-mail so we can meet up over a cup of coffee ok deal????????????????

I miss my parents :S… I miss my mom’s cooking ….i don’t know how long I can tolerate the junk food & sandwiches… I want cooked foooooooooooooooooooood!
Tabiiiiiiiiiiiiiiikh ..ha ha!! : ( (((


Yalla I get to go back to work….thanks 4 the ppl who asked about me ….take care all ok …mwaaaaaaaaaaaah

24 November, 2006

Tomorrow is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women

To all the female bloggers….please write some thing or post any facts about violence in the region…we wont let the occasion pass without any attention! Spread the word…do something!!




Stop violence against women

I’m not shocked coz I know we are in the Arab World where the Freedom of expression & liberty don’t exist & will never exist.

Months ago, I came across a blog of an egyption blogger. Very controversial views & rebellious to the core against all social & some religious norms. He had that stored anger against culture & anything related to Islam. I just felt sorry for him and for the society that produces frustrated generations without recognized rights nor freedom of speech.
They are oppressed religiously & physiologically. I’m not defending his personal opinions but I am with the freedom of speech!

Just today I knew that the guy was arrested long time ago for his views…..when we say we wanna migrate they ask us why!

What’s the value of life if others will impose their religious beliefs & lifestyles on each other? You can’t criticize the religion, the government, the ruler, the culture, the society…u can’t complain nor voice ur opinions…

The phenomenon of detaining bloggers known for controversial views is so common nowadays! Blocking their blogs is of course the easiest way!
Censorship, red lines, taboos, list of do & don’t!

I was about to post something about women in Saudi Arabia….I’m not sure if I will do so. They try to scare youth so they don’t dare to open their mouth. I have many topics on mind to blog about but I don’t want the blog to be blocked! Its bugs me to feel restrained from expressing my ideas on my blog! May be I need some courage to go a step further.

Kareem,
Although I disagree with some of your views. Go man you have all my support. They are talking about modern & free societies in time they don’t have an idea what freedom of expression is!

Do what you can to make a difference. Support him!

Sign the petition
http://www.hamsaweb.com/c2/home.php?id=Kareem2

& here is the link of the website dedicated to the campaign to free Kareem
http://www.freekareem.org/

No one deserves to be insulted or abused physically or physiologically due to his /her beliefs & views. Arabs please wake up!

18 November, 2006

Quick BUT LONG UPDATE!

Buon Giorno,
My mood is super, amazing & I’m HAPPY these days! Socially active and have lots of love & heart breaking stories that I chit chatted with my friends during the pervious days but guess wut no more sharing details with you guys! Oh sooooooooooo excited too. My parents will travel and some body will start celebrating ………………yuppy I’M GONNA BUY SHISHAAAAAAAAA….fun will start soon **EVIL SMILE**

Anyways going back to your comments sorry 4 the delay. All in all, most of you got my point about the wrongness/rightness issue.
For some reason, I figured out the following with regards to some Arab bloggers:
-Shallow-minded, introvert, & Childish (wonder wut kind of education they have or wut kind of friends they r hanging out with)
-Got no point behind blogging so they have no clue what civilized conversation is all about.
-Start criticizing the arguer and insulting him/her simply because he/she has a different point of view. As a result, they forget what the point was & use their long sharp tongue & shiitty kind of communication to defend their image. Self insecure!

BTW firas I was about to change me mind but I think I would be mistaken if I did …I would be insulting my intelligence if I though of replying to your “SARCASTIC COMMENT”:
“PS to Arablady, take it easy,now looking at your avatar I see that you've taken my advice and you are all covered up, good for you”.
!!!
Sami,
My post wasn’t a response to the Arab Girl’s post. Her post just triggered some questions that would be dicussied sooner or later…I was talking about the trap we all tend to fall in: categorizing human beings according to our beliefs assuming we r RIGHT. GO back to wut D, Shaykhspeara Sha'ira & Hannan have said about the right/wrong thing issue…they just rephrased or expressed my view but in a different way…
I guess it was a big mistake referring to her post in the first place. Agree with you but allow me to comment on the following:
““Not to wrong all girls, there is girls that were raised in environment that they found all people around them; their moms, their sisters,etc are comfortable wearing Bikini and that's why they wear it... but when a girl comes from Saudi Arabia to the U.S. and wear bikini here and then when the plane lands in Jeddah, she puts on the scarf and 3abyaa.. that's what is called slutty girl”””.
To me she is not a slutty girl! Don’t u people say in Rome do what Romans do!!& do we have to stick to wut ur culture/environment even if it goes against our personal values, individualism, & reasoning. Life is all about experiencing new things. Sounds you agree with me that its a matter of lifestyle too. at the same you r telling me if a person was born in a certain environment, she/he must stick to it & never change! So if my parents have their own religious & politics beliefs, I must follow blindly wut my brain was stuffed with. Then where have the role of external factors gone like media, friends, schools, university, traveling, …..etc.
Assume that your father is a communist, liberal, or fanatic should you believe in his convictions just because his is your father and knows better than you! they give us the basics & then its our duty to continue our life journey & build up our own system of values & beliefs..
Anyways, that girl might be a slut in ur opinion but I c her a VICTIM… victim of the unfair culture that allows the man to do wutever he wants but lists wut a woman should & should not do…they create generations with double standard views, values, & behaviors! We cover in front of the so called “society” but in reality we have our own secret life! Is this what the society wants!

clayfuture
no I wont tell anymore!

Nash & Dubai_Stud I dunno guys but I would be more than happy to have some identical copies of u 2 distribute…Arab women r in need of similar men…life would be much easier!

Ella
I hate them too ( ok come on don’t believe me, well I do..their actions make me do hate them!) but lets be honest with ourselves we both need each other! They r giving women kind of hard time….forget that male blogger but we cant deny that zillions of ppl think in a similar way…believe me I concluded that Education has nothing to do with the mentalities…I know a professor teaching at my university…he has PhD from the states but his wife doesn’t have a high school diploma…listen some men don’t prefer the educated girl coz they know she will make his life like hell ; ) …they want a robot not a women who thinks or has a strong personality… some of them want her without history, never talked to a male other than her father & bro, covered from head 2 toe….etc u know the story & the rest of the list..of course I’m not saying all of them but the majority! You get frustrated when u know that he lived most or part of his life abroad or probably educated at prestigious universities abroad! He still thinks the same way our ancestors used to c the world..they prefer the YOUNG woman will excellent cooking skills over those who have uni degrees…I dunno wut’s wrong with them…

digital nomad & Dina hala ladies…THX 4 the support & thx 4 dropping by….ana mraw2a kteer dina no body on earth can spoil my mood J & Dingital I love you too! Rejected..hmm sounds u have a story! Any ways welcome to my spot & plz tell me who doest judge us based on our nationalities & passports! Cheer up ..dont let anything/anybody make u feel down….
Omernos said...you are nobody to tell me what I have to do…go let your friend stop being sarcastic about Islam & Hejab, as if its really funny!
***UFT***

palo-girl
thanks 4 coming by & ppl start judging each other coz they have nothing worthwhile to do in life! 3alam fadya!

Hannan, people in our culture judge the book by its cover esp when it comes 2 women. I have been harassed several times IN PUBLIC PLACES by men with beard & short Kandoraaaaaa! The last time was long time ago when I went grocery shopping & was that man trying to give me his num :S going back & forth repeaaaaaating his num over & over again!
Wuts the hell! Wanna tell u a secret THEY freak me out whenever I c I man with beard & short kandora! They never lower their gaze & spend 10 hours staring @ u!! Drama Diva & Advents Halla & thx 4 sharing ur opinion

واحد من هالعالم
Get a life …don’t tell me that u r being sarcastic too!

Anyways,
Check out the following if interested..THX Abu JOuD!
http://www.al-akhbar.com/ar/node/12321

again this blog represents my personal opinions that might be wrong or right. I never claim that they are right either.

Have a great weekend...

Cheeeeeeeeerz

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After a frustrating tour to check out some blogs I ended up being called a dumb!!!


I read an interesting post http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=418 on Arab Girl’s blog.


Ok I tend to be trigging some “Dumb arguments” lately. Frankly speaking, if anybody would say this to me in real life I would smash his/her face!!

Simply I can’t tolerate disrespect & black-headedness. No one ever dares to talk to me in such a tone. Ok I’m dump but proud of my triviality which I consider it open-mindedness!

My fault & crime in life are that I don’t like to categorize human beings. I don’t like to judge who is a bitch, bastard, slut, who is gonna end up in hell or heaven simply because its none of my business!!

Girls in bikini are sluts and bitches! Oh they show their asses to the world! Who the hell am I to judge people or give them names? It’s her body, not mine! If she wants to reveal her body to the world then it’s her PERSONAL decision.

Each person has his/her own lifestyle. I ‘m neither defending nor promoting such actions but I don’t have any authority to tell her “oh, babe. Its wrong!”

Why the hell people think they know what’s wrong & right!!??

How many nationalities, cultures, and religions do we have??
So if any person on Earth is not abiding by Islam teachings or the Arab traditions, he/she is WRONG!! Is it the kind of Islam you are calling for?


If each person thinks that he is RIGHT while other DIFFERENT people are WRONG…then it’s a real disaster! Divided world with hatred being the median of communication…Peace Peace lets live with each other peacefully with neither generalization nor stereotyping!!!!!!!


Moreover, for a reason I really don’t know, I felt that the internet is male-dominated too. That’s driving me crazy. I thought I would escape my reality to find some open window to breathe and meet some ppl having a similar mentality of mine. Obviously, I’m mistaken!

The other day I checked out 7aree2a’s blog http://hareega.blogspot.com/and read a good post about prostitution so thought of checking the comments section (I wish if I did not).

And here we go I just read one of the most ………… (u fill in the blanks) comment from a Jordanian blogger ( male of course)……


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Firas said:
لهذا نقول أن المرأة و هي فتنة مكانها البيت الذي هو مملكتها و يعطيها كامل حقوقها
إزا مات زوجها الذي بالغالب هة ابن عمها، فان شيخ فاضل و جليل يتزوجها و يستر
عليهاأرجعوا نساءنا غلى المطابخ و البيت و اذا لا سمح الله خرجت من البيت
فعليها بالبرقع من فوق لتحت
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Translation into English
That’s why we say a woman being the source of bewitchment must stay at home which is her kingdom that gives her all her rights. In case the husband, most probably her cousin, passes away or dies, a decent Imam/ sheik will marry her to provide shelter for her.

Let women go back to kitchen and houses and in case a woman goes out side her house, God forbid, she must be covered & veiled from head to toe!!!
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The disaster is that by living in an Arab country I know I can’t sue him!! Do I have the right to commit suicide!! Gosh I can’t imagine the life of a woman full of sick ppl having such a mentality around her!!

Now I’m really sick of this shit!

Women are the source of prostitution
Women fool men
Women triggers men’s sexual desire and lead them to committing sins
Women are the source of every disaster in this world …they probably behind:

Earthquakes in Asia and the Far East
Hurricanes in the States
Tsunami
The Israeli-Arab conflict in the Middle East
Poverty in the Third World Countries
Starvation in Africa
Unemployment & crimes everywhere
All kind of pollution
The War on Lebanon & Iraq

IN A NUTSHELL THEY R RESPONSIBLE FOR

ALL the social, political, ethical, humanitarian, moral, educational, cultural, and environmental problems/crisis on Earth!!!

Since we r the Satan on Earth, why don’ they come up with some biological weapons to wipe US WOMEN off THE UNIVERSE! Isn’t better! So both of us would REST IN PEACE!!! Our existence bothers them like hell!!

Ya Allah please please please give me some patience and support to survive in these societies….pour your blessings on me to bear the fault of being a female!!!
Amen!

Ya Sneeen 3Omry

http://song.6arab.com/7sain-aljasmy..ya-sneen-3omry..(Updated_By_Uae4mp3).ram

http://songs.6arab.com/7usain-jasmy_ya-seghr-alfara7(3ood-uae4mp3.com.ram

Officially you mean nothing to me…..
I won’t mourn your death either…
I’ll put my ethics and feelings under the cheapest shoes I have….

Bye Bye Ethics…Bye Bys morals, manners, &values….

The old person is DEAD NOW…..the one you see now is a real bitch & I’m happy with her….

28 October, 2006

Tonight is one of my worst nights…I cant sleep …I’m nervous…..i feel that my friend is choosing the wrong path….i’m worried about her ….she is falling in love with a married man!! He is local….i warned her many times to stay far away from him before falling in love..but its too late…He wants to marry her and meet her family!! Never thought that she would lose her mind!!

I don’t know what’s happened to her! ITs obviously brainwashing!
She is going nuts! She is just wasting other PERECT FAB opportunities ..she preferred the married man…ana I gave up really…

Heba “he is mahdoum, be3aed, “religious”, tayoub…..blab blah!”

So Wut! AFTER ALL he is married and has kids?

I sent her mgs after we talked tonight:

Me: @ 1:07 AM
“M shocked u r ….yrs thinking abt a mn who sold his wife “no matter how bad she is” n his family..love isn’t everything..look 4 a man who will be urs only mish sharing him wiz another woman..law kan (if he was) poor u wouldn’t think about him but u got impressed..dont u feel that u r sel3a (commodity) he wants 2 buy just coz Islam lets him marry 4”

2nd SMS @ 1:21 AM
“Nakadti 3alay 3anjad.can’t sleep! Tell him I wana meet him.u mean a lot 2 me this is ur future..i want to ask about his reputation & history bedi etaman 3aliki”

So she replied:
“Hiba 7ayati sure I ‘ll let u meet him he is in ksa now has a business trip…ma t5afi 3alay (don’t worry about me) hiba he is good u will c ennu (that) his is good wil tell u kil shi(will tell u everything)”

Better be a good man otherwise u will face some troubles with me!!!

I feel sorry for his poor wife? Believe it or not his wife called my friend to know whether or not my friend has a relation with her husband! The wife was like I fed up ,”,it’s the 1000th time …plz don’t get married ..all men are game players, disloyal….ect”.

I can feel that my friend is feeling guilty esp after she saw his two adorable kids and talked to his poor wife, but she is addicted to him!!! She just can’t quit talking to him!
The bastard has sent her VERY expensive gifts by DHL on EID!!

We are just stupid, never learn from others experience with men…

I just tried my best to explain how unethical what they are doing is? Just imagine that your husband is cheating on you? How would u feel? She knows the answer very well but I feel sorry for us? Too emotional, we accept to be toys played by them, how could I reach such a stage!! Its really disgusting!!

Being very rich and a big shot in the country, he thinks that he could buy or mess around with any woman and most importantly humiliate his wife and hurt her feelings!?!

What drives me crazy that the guy shows how religious he is!! He even tried to convince my friend to wear Hejab! He even sent Abayaz from Dubai to Lebanon!! And the crazy gets more and more impressed!

I really wish her all best …she is still young and deserves the best…I don’t want her to continue the play!! It’s a closed circle that has neither an ending nor a starting point…I’m thinking of talking to the guy or maybe talking to his family!! I just want him to leave her alone so she can continue her life with some peace of mind!!

90% of the married men in Dubai have secret affairs! No respect to the human being who said “yes I do agree to be his wife”, no respect to his family! Imagine that his wife is the one cheating on him!! What would happen? She would be bringing dishonor to him but his childish, irresponsible, unethical, disrespectful and sinful behaviors bring pride!!

If you are cheating on your wife and all of the sudden you discovered she is doing the same, what would you do? 100% of Arab men would say I would divorce her? Why should wifes forgive while cheating husbands get away with it??


I guess the problem lies in US females……I keep on hearing the same lame excuses
Women tend to forgive and let things pass peacefully coz
we get scared of getting divorced
we wanna protect the family! What the hell is this? He didn’t give a damn to his family then why should we care about “ the family”?

Wish if I could meet the man who could change my perception towards men in UAE & in our societies!

Believe it or not:
Before I get married I will let him sign a contract to secure my rights in case he thinks of messing around….don’t u see how Hollywood stars sign contracts b4 marriage stating the consequences of divorce!!

I will do the same!!
If Islam allows him to marry another three women
If culture forgives his sins……..
If his manhood allows him to cheat on me ………

Then lets the contract and the law protect my rights!!

I’m dying to meeeeeeeeeeeeet him!! Wana c who the hell he is….

For everybody who contributed to the last post thx, but sorry I am not concentrating I dunno who said wut …I’m confused nowadays …..couldn’t even reply to each and every one …but most of u had wonderful comments like Digital, Dina, Rebellious Arab Lady, to mention a few……


Ah guy zI will start a temp job in Nov inshalaaa….yalla I will try to get some sleeeeeeep….

Nitttttty

21 October, 2006

I am really pissed off, I just came across a post advising men to back off when it come to enforcing women to cover up…the post was great but reading the word “our women” insulted my feminism!

” OUR”, “OUR”…..”OUR”!

“Am I a commodity, a peace of furniture, or does he own me!?

The reason why I like Dr. Nawal AL Saadawi is that she calls for women’s right to give the baby his mother’s family name!

Yes, why not!!!

And yes I wish if men could back off when it comes to veiling! I believe it’s the woman’s sole decision. Who are they to decide on our behalf! I would never enforce my daughter to cover up just because:

I might be ashamed of her in public when going out uncovered …I don’t want her to judge ppl based on a piece of cotton/silk or wutever on the head!
Or just because I am might be worried about her being sexually harassed.
Plus It’s not an accurate measurable indication of Iman/faith!!! It might be, but I do see girls who fast, pray, and read Quraun but are uncovered! And their behaviors are much better than those who are covered by force!


I really feel insulted to cover up just because I might sexually arouse a man in the street! It’s my body. MY…MY Why shall I spend my whole life in the shadow? Why shall I feel that I’m a Satan on Earth!! I fed up…is it really difficult for them to control their animalistic desires! Well, I guess it’s their problem then!….they should lower their gaze if they are scared of committing a sin by looking at a woman…..

In short, if a woman wants to cover herself from head to toe then she must be the one who is making such a decision neither her dad nor husband!

I had no intention to blog esp that I had a hectic night yesterday. It was beautifully ended by a car accident near the busiest roundabout in the city!!
Guess what, for the first time ever in my life…. i went to the police station! I was on my nerves the whole one & a half hours …my blood was boiling from madness at the idiot who I hit…. Don’t worry nothing major.....just the police officer couldn't judge whose fault it was! At the police station, I met a Syrian girl who hit a little kidoo but THX God the kidoo is not hurt….oppps I started blablabing,,,well I will tell u the details later!


Anyways,
Unfortunately, we have to farewell the visitor of October. So on the joyous occasion of the Eid, I extend my best wishes to you and the people you love. Wish you many treasured moments of happiness and peace.

Happy Eid, Love you all!!!

17 October, 2006

I figure out that I’m desperately missing something in my life…I spent a few years looking for that thing…is it love, my relation with God or my dissolved soul…..

I have changed a lot ….i’m not the same person anymore, religiously, mentally, emotionally, and you name it. I am sick of people who think my life is perfect. Why I’m not able to see what they see…..

Last night I just called Mirvat in Lebanon, hearing her voice released some of what has been accumulating but still…I don’t feel like going out this week..everybody is like yalla go buy new stuff for the Eid..but I keep on saying No NOoooo..not in da mood! They are like everybody bought except you, but guess what, so what, who cares! I never think about trivial things!

My friend Dayna had some depression too due to a recent emotional shock…Mirvate broke up with her fiancé, and Sabreen complains about her husband…I am sick of hearing about men being great bastards!!! Enough Enough…..Still wondering if decent men are still there somewhere in this world…..Is it really that difficult to find your Mr. Right…..

With regards to the job hunting…I really somehow gave up ….how does it feel to know that you are hired because you are a female….being a good looking female your sole responsibly at work is to attract and bring in new business and clients…where the hell shall I bring them from …it isn’t their problem...sacrifice, compromise, act as a bitch ….its your problem then why do we pay you?!

Whenever a man hears that you need a job, he will definitely be more than happy to find a job 4 u at his company or recommend you to another friend BUT you

Should be his girl friend for awhile until he finds another catch oh ya “ a friend”, accept his invitations to lunch & dinner, answer his calls whenever he wants to call….! What the hell is this!

Dealing with some shitty people makes me suspicious, skeptical, and run away whenever the job has anything to do with sales or business development…….!

I remember when I was somehow in love, I used to see life from a bright optimistic perspective…you wake up every morning with a smile on your face, sing all the time, the traffic is not annoying any more…etc but unfortunately he was a bustard like the others….probably I’m missing some true love….missing the old simple days…the kid who was in me….missing many things indeed…..

PS: I would like to thank a pretty lady who knows herself. THANK YOU HON but I’m still stubborn and wanna manage this particular issue without bothering or getting help from others ;)……….

Received it by e-mail, its awesome, and would like to share it with u guys

10 October, 2006

Kindly Skip reading this

Well yes I am back…ah back to the place I belong to, back to my nest, to me babe(my car ya3ni), and to the people I can communicate with!...well after being away for about two weeks I discovered that I’m desperately in love with this country …so the new deal will be as follows:

- No whining about the roasting weather.. So no Yay I am sweating…oh Damn it my makeup has been washed out! Shit the eye liner’s gone!
- No whining about the shitty traffic between Sharjah & Dubai.
- No whining about the number of Indians or the westerners in Dubai …So no more of uffz where have the Arabs disappeared?

FULL STOP.

I was supposed to come fresh, energetic, and full of life to resume my journey in this life (that was the goal of the whole trip in fact)
BUT lately things seem to be going against my will or my plans…my brother’s BITCH…oppps man no gossip in Ramadan! Ok I mean his wife mashala ruined my vacation and started her drama while I was there… so all of the sudden I packed my stuff at 2 am and called my sister to book the first flight heading to Dubai…within 24 hours I was hommmeeeeeee laying in bed…….

Guys ur wishes didn’t work out :( “apart from the one for coming back safe and sound & YES Thank God I’m here…a whole piece…” But 3an jad I missed u ALL…

Lessons learnt from this “Man70sa” Trip:
I saw in my own eyes how the life of the WORKING CLASS is
Now realized what poverty means…no more complaining about the brand of my car!
I saw how people from lower educational levels communicate, live, think, and behave.

(hmmm I dunno I might post something about the trip but definitely wont be pleasing nor positive!)

Next

The job hunting process is frustrating….how does it feel to be unemployed!
AH WELCOME TO THE JOBLESS CLUB as said by a friend! We serve free Coke every Saturday…! Just come over and let’s mourn our luck together!

Is it too much to work in the marketing field…Am I asking for something impossible! Is it a miracle to find a marketing related job in this country! It’s either sales or sales or sales…or ah admin work! And guess what I discovered that a secretarial certificate gets u a job immediately but a bachelor degree doesn’t! ((Ya Rab El Saber Bas!!!))
I proudly regret the four years I spent studying three different specializations! Why do they import foreign workforce from other Middle Eastern countries and Asia while WE, the graduate of this country are sitting at home…! I should have shortened my way and took a secretarial course and worked in any company…the End will eventually be getting married to the boss ( who is already married with kids)…as it happens in most of the Egyptian movies…which is not too bad!!

Sometimes I feel down…I keep on asking myself questions like: when am I going to start building my future & earning money! By the time I establish my foot on solid ground, get a decent job, and do my Masters which will definitely take two or three years..i will be in my thirties !!!

And when its time to look around for Mr. Right, he will be looking 4 for a much younger chick!!

07 September, 2006

Loooooooooooooong vacation

Good morning,
Tonight’s nightmare (when I say a nightmare then it’s a REAL FRIGHTENING
NIGHTMARE) made me think twice about death and the possibility of not coming back….believe me it’s the worst thing in life to die away from your family and to get buried in a country other than yours….the idea of traveling by a plan freaks me out…used to think that my life is long and I have the enough time to rethink about my relation with God and to c how far I’m satisfied with it…….i just wrote a list of friends I want my sister-in-law to contact in case anything happened to me ……I dunno why I would care about letting them now…after all the human being is skillful at forgetting….

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh UAE I love u!!!!!!!

yalla

Good morning to MD, Clayfuture, 3anooda, Arab woman, UAE alias, Ella, Summer, Abed, & Qwaider…

I say hi to the beautiful ladies: spirit, pearl, seraphic, and all seeing eyes,umaminah, digital nomad, Tamara, one day, rebellious Arab girl…
and to Yamani, nash, silent tear, and moe

Guys I will miss u all…..take care .........

As MD has said If I die then this blog will die with them….and I will say the same………….

Love u all and I apologize if I ever hurt somebody

01 September, 2006

I knew that the women would call. Her hysterical questions and remarks were just an indication that I passed the test!

Honey what is your weight, Mashala you look slim, ok what about your height darling
…mmm well no girl you must be taller than that (I might lie about my age :D but why would i shorten myself!) do you work, how old are you, what is your year of birth, what did you study, and the most interesting question:

Do you go out wearing this!! Do you wear veil?? *_* !!!
**Hint: I was wearing decent clothes so no bikini, no mini skirt even….etc

Habibty adi waznik…mashala yekhzi el 3eeen n7ifa…tayeb balahi adi tolik…la mish ma32oool akiiid atwal min heeek ( tayeb li bedi akzib wa 2ser 7ali ya rabi?) bteshti’3li shi khaltooo, tayeb adi 3omrik , ah mwaleed ay sana dakhilik…khalto sho darasti…and the shocking question: enti btetla3i bara labsa heek? Yali byesma3 befakir kont mshala7a shi!


To me being asked such questions bugs me like hell. My privacy is sacred and hate to be invaded by similar unacceptable behavior and ridiculous comments esp the last comment. To some people it might be ok but I’m just not used to it.

My mom went nuts and was like he doesn’t even have a proper degree so how come his mom would even think of any possible acceptance from our side!

Dear Mom,
I discovered that education has nothing to do with the mentality. High degrees might get us well paid jobs or give us some decent designations or recognition from others but will never mean intellect, will never guarantee the person is respectful, & will never guarantee that he is the perfect match for your daughter.I just told her a story I’ve heard on radio long time ago about a civil engineer who got married to a barber. She fought the whole world & stood up very bravely for her choice….for her decision….& for her man. Her relatives just went crazy as she brought dishonor to them!! After ten years of happy marriage & three adorable kids, the people who stepped in her way finally realized that they were mistaken. To her his love and respect meant a lot more than a piece of paper.

Well let’s stop judging people based on what cars they drive, how high their salaries are; what degrees they have…etc. Materialistic indications never assure happiness or harmony. After this interesting discussion, mom just listed the potential grooms who were eliminated due to “educational gaps or inconvenience”!!!

Ah mom I should have closed my mouth!! :S Anyway his mother’s question: “Do you go out dressing up like this” was more than enough to know that they were not my cup of tea!

I’m sure you have similar stories but the point is A DEGREE DOESN’T NECESSARILY MAKE A MAN A REAL MAN!

30 August, 2006

aha woow I hope u guys finished arguing coz I have some points to address….the party is over...I’m really sorry coz things went that way…never expected the discussion will turn like that ....Actually, I’ve been misunderstood big time…

Some ppl just let their imagination go far away imagining me being oppressed & tortured by religion, family, and culture!! Some ppl just put my family is da middle…but guess wut I have the most wonderful , supporting, caring, and loving parents on Earth…..

The rebellious energy and my openness haven’t come out of the blue but from my dear dad..
Who gave me the ability 2 chose & decide……. Who put his faith, trust, and confidence in his little daughter…Who encouraged her 2 have a strong personality, 2 be an independent entity, rebellious, stubborn, a girl who never accepts things as they are without being convinced….

I argue, argue, and argue with them YES
but eventually reach satisfying solutions ….I’m not living with a military gang! So plz put my family aside….i guess having some sort of conflict is something healthy and usual! Some friends just think I’m lucky 2 have such a family! I realize this when I look at some other conservative families whose daughters learnt nothing except being submissive spending their lives pleasing the society & letting years pass by to end up alone…..

Yes I dare to criticize & question
& have the willingness to continue keeping this spirit!


Some mistakenly supposed that it’s disrespectful to think about living alone while ur parents are still alive. It’s your right to believe in whatever you want but don’t close your eyes assuming that people with different point of views DON’T EXIST OR NOT ALLOWED TO EXIST.


Another thing, if you just paid attention to the following sentence:

Your identity is a mixture of things U CREATE fromUR RELIGION U FOLLOW ...UR ETHICS .........UR OWN PERSPECTIVES .............................................

I guess I said follow ur religion, if some bloggers had just read that word “UR Religion”, they would have saved their comments. My relation with God is mine; it’s between him and me. I love my national dress, eat national traditional food, enjoy listening 2 wut mom & dad tell about the old good days, adore the national music, love 2 smell my grandma’s sewn sweater…….BUT that doesn’t mean that I can’t try the Italian or Chinese food, wear jeans, or learn a foreign language....I’m no body 2 demean, degrade, disrespect, or offend other cultures and the same applies when it comes 2 our culture……

The reason behind this blog was 2 release my anger toward what is happening in our “feminine world”, to express my frustration to c some women suffering coz they are women…… Cultural practices and beliefs are not the HOLY QURAN ..our ancestors were human beings like u & me……its not a white page without black marks….

In some cultures they still burn the wife alive if the husband dies before here….. In some cultures they chase the wife for paying the dowry and some women commit suicide just 2 get ride of their miseries….. In some culture they still practice Honor killing…… u name the rest coz the list is long


Dina is a women in her mid-twenties living under immense oppression & unlimited supervision…not allowed to work…beaten up by her dad…not allowed 2 have friends…living under her step mother’s mercy…restriction…restriction …and restriction ....She rebels in her own way, she drinks, smokes, have sex with anybody whenever she has the chance …& guess what she is a lesbian…seeing similar example everywhere, in every house, in every society, in every country depresses me. I feel myself paralyzed coz I can’t help….i can’t change how SOME people look upon women, can’t change their mentalities….. Her fault is being a woman in the wrong place….. leading her life to hell… …seeing some women destroying their lives makes me imagine that they would have been brilliant personalities, achievers, or leaders if some body had believed in them!


I see women who are not allowed to
Study majors they like,
Choose their man,
Get married or even
Work
I see women who are not allowed to survive in a male-dominated society.

Dear all
Excuse me if I talk on behave of them
I don’t blog 2 entertain others, not 2 insult anybody either….
I ‘m not a Mufti…& I don’t claim I know better than any one…but being young doesn’t mean I have 2 close my big mouth….

Silentear,
I do respect & admire your views. Didn’t intend 2 block ur stream of thoughts…but I still have all the rights to see things from my own perspective which might be wrong or right……love ur passion 4 Islam….i don’t have any problem learning from you though…

Qwiader,
I see no reason for ur “ma3ma3a”…….
U could be the greatest LOVER
The greatest HUSBAD
The greatest BROTHER
The greatest DAD
AND eventually the most wonderful MAN ever….

But don’t assume the rest of men on earth are
Understanding
Respectful to women
Protective to a reasonable extent
And followers of TRUE Islam that appreciates women

If that was the case, we wouldn’t c other dinaz everywhere…… Ur free 2 express ur opinion here …its my home…my kingdom…my nest…my outlet….the place where I share my concerns, others experience & my observations…..


Many thanks 2 MD, silent tear, uae alias, abed hamdan, summer, tamara, clayfuture, shady, hanan &
Definetly
Definetly
Mr. Qwaider ( damak 7ami kteeer ro2!)

Appreciate ur comments although some ppl were harsh, aggressive, and just came up with false assumptions….


Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err.

Mahatma Gandhi

Prefer liberty with danger to peace with slavery.

Author Unknown

We are free, truly free, when we don't need to rent our arms to anybody in order to be able to lift a piece of bread to our mouths.

Ricardo Flores Magon, speech, 31 May 1914

Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves.

Abraham Lincoln

Liberty is the possibility of doubting, of making a mistake,... of searching and experimenting,... of saying No to any authority - literary, artistic, philosophical, religious, social, and even political. Ignazio Silone, The God That Failed, 1950

Warm regards & my space is open 2 the whole world!

Love u all !!!

28 August, 2006

Shady’s comment on the post “Single Arab women living alone? Yup, WHY NOT?” triggered this post and reminded me of one of the zillion conversations I had with my sister about what is so called “Culture”.......

My poor sister was convincing me (as usual along with the rest of the royal family :D) with regard to how my rebellious mentality doesn’t work with “OUR CULTURE”…and how “OUR CULTURE” never accepts such ideas…..and that I don’t live in the west but “IN OUR CULTURE”….Etc

I asked her a question: could you please define the word “CULTURE”!!

She was like it’s about our beliefs…..blab blah

I said let me define it for you

It’s about beliefs, thoughts, practices, traditions, and customs our ANCESTORS used to FOLLOW hundred years ago……

Our ANCESTORS are DEAD (sheb3oo moot)………and I don’t FOLLOW others beliefs (Why would I? Any reason? NO) ………not born to FOLLOW but hopefully to LEAD…LEAD MYSELF…and MY life

I FOLLOW my OWN RULES I put for myself

Your identity is a mixture of things U CREATE from

UR RELIGION U FOLLOW ...
UR ETHICS .........
UR OWN PERSPECTIVES .............................................

Do you notice the U, I, Myself, Me ,UR

It's not THEY………PERIOD!

Someppl claim that they r LIBERAL while they keep on saying BUT…….

Yesterday I asked a bloger (Tamara) about the difference between untraditional and liberal after reading her profile

Tamara Says…
About Me
I'm a simply complicated person...a best friend and worse enemy...love life but not afraid of death...to put me in simple words ...well you can't, TRADITIONAL TO THE CORE BUT THE MOST UNTRADITIONAL PERSON YOU HAVE MET...what can I say simply marvelous...with a twist ; )


So I went ahead and asked the lady …..i was telling myself why she didn’t use the word LIBERAL ..WHY UNTRADITIONAL!!!


ArabLady said...
my first time here and inshalla not the last but got a Q 4 u plz if u dont mindwut is da difference bwt untraditional & liberal....just had a look @ ur profile and the word "untraditional"caught my attention
3:38 AM

Tamara said...
Arab lady – welcome to my coroner and I'm glad you are planning to make many more visits : D Mi casa es su casa As for untraditional Vs Liberal, liberal usually refers to not abiding by social or religious guidelines, untraditional in my opinion and what I was referring to is that I'm not like every one else, I dare to question norms and traditions well every thing for that matter, not disrespect them just question and I only follow what I'm convinced in and follow only the true rule of Islam. And well my untraditionally shows in other aspects, if you follow my writings you will see manifestations of that ( this is called blog promotion ; ) )
4:09 AM

Tamara hope u r not bothered by what I posted.....hope I answered u shady!!

After all we are not supposed to be alike in this world! Are we?

Sorry but I liked to clarify this point…..hope its clear now…….

I don’t belong to anybody, anyplace…….i belong 2 myself…kinda weird, eh!

BUT IT’S ME!

When dreams die out……happiness is gone


My dreams are falling apart
I have no clue from where to start or even how

I miss the old soul that used to inhabit my body ........
I miss the ambitious active girl with rosy dreams .......
The girl who wanna touch the sky.......

I discovered that dreams destroyed my life ........
I don’t want to dream anymore…..
I want my feet to be on the ground……my dreams destroyed me mentally and ruined my relationships with the people surrounding me

I lost the motives ........
I lost the desire .........
I lost the willingness .......
I lost my soul three years ago ..........

I want the old me….i wanna her to come back….plz come back !!

Maybe she is happier somewhere there leaving me alone grieving my deep wounds……

I can’t find happiness….what is happiness….i just wanna break the cuffs and fly away searching for my lost spirit......

The question is

is it going 2 come back.....

26 August, 2006

What happens if an insect falls in a cup of coffee

The British: will throw the cup into the street and leave the coffeeshop for good.

The American: will get the insect out and drink thecoffee.The Chinese: will eat the insect and drink the coffee.

The Israeli will:
1) Sell the coffee to the American and the insect to the Chinese.

2) Cry on all media channels that he feels insecure.

3) Accuse the Palestinians, Hizb Allah, Syria and Iran ofusing germ-weapons.

4) Keep on crying about anti-semitism and violations of human rights.

5) Ask the Palestinian President to stop planting insectsin the cups of coffee.

6) Re-occupy the West Bank, Gaza Strip.

7) Demolish houses, confiscate lands, cut water andelectrity from Palestinian houses and randomly shootPalestinians.

8) Ask the United States for urgent military support and a loan of one million dollars in order to buy a new cup of coffee.

9) Ask the United Nations to punish the coffee-shopowner by making him offer free coffee to him till the end of thecentury.

10) Last but not least, accuse the whole world to be standing still, not even sympathizing with the Israeli Nation.

25 August, 2006

Somehow true!!

The Keys to Your Heart

You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free. In love, you feel the most alive when your lover is creative and never lets you feel bored. You'd like to your lover to think you are optimistic and happy. You would be forced to break up with someone who was emotional, moody, and difficult to please. Your ideal relationship is open. Both of you can talk about everything... no secrets. Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment. You think of marriage something you've always wanted... though you haven't really thought about it. In this moment, you think of love as commitment. Love only works when both people are totally devoted.

What Are The Keys To Your Heart?